1)ONE MORE TRY-forget your ex and realize there was a reason you parted in the first place. Men say they miss you and have changed…..YA RIGHT. Old habits have a way of finding their way back into a relationship. Too many other nice guys out there that would worship the ground you walk on……but they can’t if you are still hung up on your ex. It’s your past not your future.
2) REBOUND/TRANSITION-The first guy you choose to date will most likely be the transitional guy. Everything seems great at first but ultimately the relationship (once the intimacy is achieved) starts to experience some bumps and eventually dwindles. Realize this is just a phase and he is not your true love. So have your fun then let him down gently.
3) HIGH STANDARDS-no guy is gonna be perfect, Mr. Right is not Mr. Right now. The whole idea of wanting it all in your 30’s takes tremendous effort. With that in mind, very few men will ever truly measure up to your pre-conceptions of what your ideal man will be. Heck if you’re pushing 35 be grateful a man with hair, all his teeth , employed who buys you flowers and wants to sweep you off your feet, still exists. Take a chance, down the road you could find this guy to be an essential part of your life. PERFECT GUYS get divorced TOO YOU KNOW. Is it really settling if he treats you well, makes you laugh, is honest and devotes his love to you? People change 10 years down the road but a nice guy will always be a nice guy. That perfect guy may not be around in 10 years and you may have spent a lifetime finding him. When a nice average guy could have been just as good and would have treated you the way you deserve to be treated.
4) PUTTING LOOKS BEFORE PERSONALITY-FIRST let me start by saying shame on you……how old are you. Hotties have a difficult time being committed as far as relationships are concerned. Give me an average person with a killer personality any day. The eye candy guy is flattering at first but down the road, staying together, its personality that wins the race. Some of the most interesting people I have ever met have been average looking but what lies beneath the pretty paper is what truly makes me smile. The lil love notes, the funny antics, the ability to express ones
feelings, the devotion and integrity. PERSONALITY RULES!!!!!!! NUFF SAID.
5) OLD FASHIONED-wanna know how to keep a guy……know how to cook a few dishes really well and take initiative (jump his bones) when it comes to intimacy. CALL HIM, ASK HIM OUT, pay for dinner once in awhile, and take him to a hotel. LIVE A LITTLE. HAVE A HOT STEAMY ROMANCE. You can always go back to being a Mary Poppins Monday.
6) SAME OLD SAME OLD-date someone you would not normally date and see what transpires. The grocery boy could be a quick fix or the love of your life. Point is you never know until you try. Try someone older/younger, average, tall, short, etc. DATE OUTSIDE THE BOX.
7) ENDING IT BEFORE IT BEGINS-it usually takes 3 dates before the initial relationship begins. On first dates people are polite and nervous. Date two-the whole affection thingy starts to transpire. By date three or four there usually begins some sort of intimacy. By this time you should have a good sense about the person, this is a good indication if this guy is worthy of your affection. Going on a bunch of first dates really does not give you an indication of a mans true intentions. If you make an effort to make it work…..it just might. But a date here and there then saying something like “I just ain’t feeling it” is not a fair assessment. Give the guy a chance.
8) STAYING TOO BUSY-the reason there are not any nice guys left is ‘cause you ain’t looking sister. Squeezing in a date every other weekend is not a relationship that’s built to last. MAKE THE TIME, you must try speed-dating, internet dating, etc. You made the initial trial and paid for the event, now follow it through. You’ll have plenty of time to yourself once the relationship is solidified. But do not just pencil in your date on your appointment calendar. Set aside some time for you and him together. Exposure to him will reveal things you may have not extrapolated before. GET OUT THERE, you go girl!!!!!!!!
9) TOO COMPLEX-its dating, its supposed to be silly and fun. Smile, have fun, fake it you if have to. Forget about how much money he makes, or what kind of car he drives. Let your hair down and have some wholesome fun. Love, respect, sincerity all will come with time spent together. If a marriage proposal finds its way into the relationship, then all the better. But leave your serious side at home for the first few weeks while dating. Who cares who calls who, just make the date less cerebral. Gosh you are a chic for crying out loud……..We love your looks/body and mind in that order. Don’t complicate things ladies. Tell us how you truly feel down the road, saying I love you can wait.
10) DATING MORE THAN ONE PERSON-you need to pick a guy and see where it leads. Dating exclusively has many advantages. Going on a bunch of dates with several men can be fun at first but gets tired real fast. It ultimately leads to mistrust and disappointment. It’s not fair to either of you and may have consequences. Monogamy is not monotony…….love takes time. I am fully aware of how flattering it is with a new flavor every other month but in the end you must choose one.
11) MALE FRIENDS-a lady that has way too many male friends is not very popular with us wannabe boyfriends. Heck if we really like you 1 close male friend threatens us. WE DON”T LIKE IT, the only male friend you should have is us. WE HATE TO SHARE! Secretly, the male friend (if he had the chance) would have sex with you in a second. That’s why guys have women friends-one day we hope you will let your guard down. Having a lil black book filled with ex’s or male friends that call you on a regular basis does not score points with us. If you need a friend hang out with the girls or buy a cat.
12) HIGH MAINTENANCE-taking too long to get ready for a date. Not being able to get down n dirty every once in awhile--won’t go camping or mud wrestling. Always insists on men doing things for her, rarely wears daisy dukes. Has Extra long hair or finger nails.
13)TOO SENSITIVE-getting offended by a joke, taking initial conversation personal can lead possible sparks to fizzle. Let it slide, don’t sweat the small stuff. Focus on the positives. Use the 3 date rule. Give it a opportunity to blossom or at lease reveal his true identity.
14) PHONE CALLS-it’s rude to be constantly answering your phone. We dislike it when you say it’s just a friend, or you are checking your messages. Don’t make calls on dates or excuse yourself to go the rest room and make a call. We don’t even want to hear your phone ring 20 times in an hour-it makes you look like a player. Stop checking who called, turn off the ringer or leave it in your purse. One more thing ANSWER IT WHEN WE CALL or make time to call us…..sheesh.
15) ATTITUDE-*****es, chics that like to argue, posses poor attitudes, get upset or irritated easily. Offensive, rude, sarcastic to everyone, constantly using the f work or profanity, chain smokers or drug abusers. Chics that need to flirt with everyone, having way too many friends, work-a-holics, party every weekend. Women that are too independent tend to be un-emotional.
16) PRIORITY-treating pets better than they treat their men. Everything revolves around their pets or their kids, family first. Then they give us grief for not wanting to spend time with them.
17) FREE RIDE-always expecting the man to pay, buy her drinks, use his car/gas or buy ‘em something on sweetest day/valentines day. We are not walking ATM’s.
18) NIT PICK-women that nit pick constantly grind our nerves, dont sweat the small stuff ladies, choose your BATTLES!
2) REBOUND/TRANSITION-The first guy you choose to date will most likely be the transitional guy. Everything seems great at first but ultimately the relationship (once the intimacy is achieved) starts to experience some bumps and eventually dwindles. Realize this is just a phase and he is not your true love. So have your fun then let him down gently.
3) HIGH STANDARDS-no guy is gonna be perfect, Mr. Right is not Mr. Right now. The whole idea of wanting it all in your 30’s takes tremendous effort. With that in mind, very few men will ever truly measure up to your pre-conceptions of what your ideal man will be. Heck if you’re pushing 35 be grateful a man with hair, all his teeth , employed who buys you flowers and wants to sweep you off your feet, still exists. Take a chance, down the road you could find this guy to be an essential part of your life. PERFECT GUYS get divorced TOO YOU KNOW. Is it really settling if he treats you well, makes you laugh, is honest and devotes his love to you? People change 10 years down the road but a nice guy will always be a nice guy. That perfect guy may not be around in 10 years and you may have spent a lifetime finding him. When a nice average guy could have been just as good and would have treated you the way you deserve to be treated.
4) PUTTING LOOKS BEFORE PERSONALITY-FIRST let me start by saying shame on you……how old are you. Hotties have a difficult time being committed as far as relationships are concerned. Give me an average person with a killer personality any day. The eye candy guy is flattering at first but down the road, staying together, its personality that wins the race. Some of the most interesting people I have ever met have been average looking but what lies beneath the pretty paper is what truly makes me smile. The lil love notes, the funny antics, the ability to express ones
feelings, the devotion and integrity. PERSONALITY RULES!!!!!!! NUFF SAID.
5) OLD FASHIONED-wanna know how to keep a guy……know how to cook a few dishes really well and take initiative (jump his bones) when it comes to intimacy. CALL HIM, ASK HIM OUT, pay for dinner once in awhile, and take him to a hotel. LIVE A LITTLE. HAVE A HOT STEAMY ROMANCE. You can always go back to being a Mary Poppins Monday.
6) SAME OLD SAME OLD-date someone you would not normally date and see what transpires. The grocery boy could be a quick fix or the love of your life. Point is you never know until you try. Try someone older/younger, average, tall, short, etc. DATE OUTSIDE THE BOX.
7) ENDING IT BEFORE IT BEGINS-it usually takes 3 dates before the initial relationship begins. On first dates people are polite and nervous. Date two-the whole affection thingy starts to transpire. By date three or four there usually begins some sort of intimacy. By this time you should have a good sense about the person, this is a good indication if this guy is worthy of your affection. Going on a bunch of first dates really does not give you an indication of a mans true intentions. If you make an effort to make it work…..it just might. But a date here and there then saying something like “I just ain’t feeling it” is not a fair assessment. Give the guy a chance.
8) STAYING TOO BUSY-the reason there are not any nice guys left is ‘cause you ain’t looking sister. Squeezing in a date every other weekend is not a relationship that’s built to last. MAKE THE TIME, you must try speed-dating, internet dating, etc. You made the initial trial and paid for the event, now follow it through. You’ll have plenty of time to yourself once the relationship is solidified. But do not just pencil in your date on your appointment calendar. Set aside some time for you and him together. Exposure to him will reveal things you may have not extrapolated before. GET OUT THERE, you go girl!!!!!!!!
9) TOO COMPLEX-its dating, its supposed to be silly and fun. Smile, have fun, fake it you if have to. Forget about how much money he makes, or what kind of car he drives. Let your hair down and have some wholesome fun. Love, respect, sincerity all will come with time spent together. If a marriage proposal finds its way into the relationship, then all the better. But leave your serious side at home for the first few weeks while dating. Who cares who calls who, just make the date less cerebral. Gosh you are a chic for crying out loud……..We love your looks/body and mind in that order. Don’t complicate things ladies. Tell us how you truly feel down the road, saying I love you can wait.
10) DATING MORE THAN ONE PERSON-you need to pick a guy and see where it leads. Dating exclusively has many advantages. Going on a bunch of dates with several men can be fun at first but gets tired real fast. It ultimately leads to mistrust and disappointment. It’s not fair to either of you and may have consequences. Monogamy is not monotony…….love takes time. I am fully aware of how flattering it is with a new flavor every other month but in the end you must choose one.
11) MALE FRIENDS-a lady that has way too many male friends is not very popular with us wannabe boyfriends. Heck if we really like you 1 close male friend threatens us. WE DON”T LIKE IT, the only male friend you should have is us. WE HATE TO SHARE! Secretly, the male friend (if he had the chance) would have sex with you in a second. That’s why guys have women friends-one day we hope you will let your guard down. Having a lil black book filled with ex’s or male friends that call you on a regular basis does not score points with us. If you need a friend hang out with the girls or buy a cat.
12) HIGH MAINTENANCE-taking too long to get ready for a date. Not being able to get down n dirty every once in awhile--won’t go camping or mud wrestling. Always insists on men doing things for her, rarely wears daisy dukes. Has Extra long hair or finger nails.
13)TOO SENSITIVE-getting offended by a joke, taking initial conversation personal can lead possible sparks to fizzle. Let it slide, don’t sweat the small stuff. Focus on the positives. Use the 3 date rule. Give it a opportunity to blossom or at lease reveal his true identity.
14) PHONE CALLS-it’s rude to be constantly answering your phone. We dislike it when you say it’s just a friend, or you are checking your messages. Don’t make calls on dates or excuse yourself to go the rest room and make a call. We don’t even want to hear your phone ring 20 times in an hour-it makes you look like a player. Stop checking who called, turn off the ringer or leave it in your purse. One more thing ANSWER IT WHEN WE CALL or make time to call us…..sheesh.
15) ATTITUDE-*****es, chics that like to argue, posses poor attitudes, get upset or irritated easily. Offensive, rude, sarcastic to everyone, constantly using the f work or profanity, chain smokers or drug abusers. Chics that need to flirt with everyone, having way too many friends, work-a-holics, party every weekend. Women that are too independent tend to be un-emotional.
16) PRIORITY-treating pets better than they treat their men. Everything revolves around their pets or their kids, family first. Then they give us grief for not wanting to spend time with them.
17) FREE RIDE-always expecting the man to pay, buy her drinks, use his car/gas or buy ‘em something on sweetest day/valentines day. We are not walking ATM’s.
18) NIT PICK-women that nit pick constantly grind our nerves, dont sweat the small stuff ladies, choose your BATTLES!