"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Struggling with Oneitis & NC

sph21

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I know how you feel right now. I had been there. You can check my first thread on this site. My girlfriend disrespected me and i was so needy. But I decided to end it as fast as I could. It felt like I was in hell but I knew that I had to do it if I don't want her to hurt me more in the future.

NC is a good idea. I did it. I did it because I knew that it was the only way to be a better man by being a mentally tough man. While I did that, I re-read DJ Bible and unlearn what was wrong with me that lead me to that bad relationship.

My advice? Do what I had done. Or, you can read some feedbacks from my first thread. There are some golden advices there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jifto

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I know how you feel right now. I had been there. You can check my first thread on this site. My girlfriend disrespected me and i was so needy. But I decided to end it as fast as I could. It felt like I was in hell but I knew that I had to do it if I don't want her to hurt me more in the future.

NC is a good idea. I did it. I did it because I knew that it was the only way to be a better man by being a mentally tough man. While I did that, I re-read DJ Bible and unlearn what was wrong with me that lead me to that bad relationship.

My advice? Do what I had done. Or, you can read some feedbacks from my first thread. There are some golden advices there.
One of the things I keep coming back to is this: I was so careful with the relationship. I wasn't a complete beta, in fact I tried to do everything to save it. I would never have dreamed of treating her so poorly out of fear of ending it. On the flip side, she was comfortable being degrading and telling me how she was going to hook up with other guys. She obviously wasn't very invested in it when it went down. The odd thing was how into me she was just days before. I've never had a girl look at me the way she did, and I've had more than a fair share of LTR (most of them healthy).
 
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