"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Strange Group Situation

KnockoutJM

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Hello again everyone, I am having some trouble in this part.

In a week or so i am supposed to be meeting like about 50 people (all strangers) for the first time. We are supposed to go out to the city, but i dont have an ID or anything, and idk how it is going to work. this is only going to be a place for socializing, no business or any stuff like that.
I am wondering, how am i supposed to act in a situation like this? Should I be outgoing and try to get to know everyone? Should i find a small group i like talking to and stay with them? What should i talk about? etc. I am slightly confused, and i am not great with these big meetings of new people. I am just not sure how i should act/approach the situation, and how to break the ice, and not feel too awkward here.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bonhomme

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Re-frame your thinking.

Think of it as an opportunity, and go into it looking to have a good time. No need to try to force conversation, or anything like that, just roll with things.

Remember, other people tend to be too busy being concerned about themselves to really care that much about you. If you have a positive, fun attitude about it, they'll be drawn to you naturally, provided you're not freakishly ugly or smell bad, or something like that.

At best, you'll meet some people who could be friends for life, at worst you'll never see these people again.
 

KnockoutJM

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Would it be against the DJ rules to get a little buzz going into it, like 1-3 drinks to feel more at ease.
And these people are going to be with me for the rest of my college life
 

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Look at it this way...those 50 people are going into this in the exact same position that you are in. There will be 50 other people who, like you, don't want to stand around up against a wall feeling like a social retard. They are going to be VERY open to making small talk and getting to know people. Just make eye contact with people and anyone you see standing by themselves...go right up to and introduce yourself and start asking questions to get the conversation going. They'll likely appreciate you for it because they just got rescued from standing around feeling like a social retard/reject.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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