"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stop CHASING women. Instead EXPOSE (yourself) to them. Explained.

NeverFear

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If there's anything I've learned in my STUDY of women (yes, after getting burned i determined not to get burned AGAIN)...........................

It is that men cannot chase women. Women simply do not want a man that WANTS them. Or more specifically NEEDS them.

This flies in the face of EVERYTHING we are bombarded with from our youth up. Our mothers, the media, our dads, teachers, books, etc. told us to go chase women.

I prefer to EXPOSE women. To ME. As doc love says, the woman's Interest level determines EVERYTHING. Let me repeat that. The women's interest level determines EVERYTHING. Your interest level means NOTHING.

Here is my technique. Step by step.

1. Meet women intelligently. This means I meet the TYPE of woman I like (smart, athletic, flexibile givers) at a LOCATION that is conducive to getting their phone numbers or email .

2. Make an intrigueing, unforgettable, easy, charming, humorous, laid back, and professional impression. This takes a huge amount of practice. It captures her imagination within a few minutes. She instantly decides she would go on a date with you. Or as doc love says, her interest level is from 50 to 100 percent.

3. I get the phone number casually.

4. Once you have the contact ability, YOURE one step toward the drivers seat. Not IN the drivers seat but closer to it. At this point you are doing a little CHASING to be honest, but only because youre getting the ball rolling.

5. You call her LATER. Wait several days. And wait for the right mood when you feel positive and casual and funny.
Set up a casual date.

6. Have a great casual date. At this point, you give her GLIMPSES of the many facets of your adventurous life. You dont TELL them but IMPLY. Various aspects of laughing, connections, social proof, ****y funny, ambitions, etc.

7. You take her home and do NOT TRY TO KISS her. If she hugs you then thats her decision. Make sure you tell her what youre doing in the next few days. Make sure its adventurous. And she's not going to be any part of it. Write down your phone number and tell her to buzz you "sometime".

8. You wait.

9. SHE should call YOU next. If you made email connections, then you wait. DO NOT CONTACT HER. The next suggestion to get together is HERS.

10. If her interest level is low, she wont call you, or write you.

11 . MOVE ON MY FRIEND. DO NOT CHASE HER if she doesnt initiate more communication.

12. If she communicates with you, she will suggest getting together again. Tell her to call you when she's got a plan. You'll be glad in getting together and seeing her again IF she plans out the next one.
Youre finding out right now if she's a flexible giver.

13. You dont spend another quarter unless she demonstrates her interest level.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skullcrusher

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It's funny how you sometimes use the word "casual" but there's like 15-30 steps/rules you have to follow through.

People take MY ADVICE: Don't listen do this dude, do what you want when you feel like it or when it should be done.
 

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6. Have a great casual date. At this point, you give her GLIMPSES of the many facets of your adventurous life. You dont TELL them but IMPLY. Various aspects of laughing, connections, social proof, ****y funny, ambitions, etc.
i find the adventurous life bit very funny.
 

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Ditto, what WR said.


"Don't go chasin' busses, or women. You'll only get left behind." ~Marlboro Man
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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