Steps To Becoming More Attractive

[NeedToImprove]

I'm sick and tired of being told by women i'm not attractive enough, its ****ed up to see other guys being hit on and i dont. i know some guys just can't do anything about the looks department but i wanna give it a try. can u help me here guys?

some things im putting here that might help me or others in the same situation like me

- working out (im not fat, 152 pounds, 5.6 feet)

- tanning (guess it works for really white skin people and with green or blue eyes it works great. a girl said i have dead eyes, they dont shine, i think it might help dunno)

- good haircut ( although im balding and i tried shaving it but i didnt like the outcome, my ear and facial structure dont work with it )

- clean skin (also need some help here, what to do, products to use, etc)

- facial hair (yes or no)

- good cologne (currently im using Acqua di Gió by Giorgio Armani)

- body hair (take it or leave it. today a girl criticized me because i shaved my chest, abs area and armpits. she said i'm not manly enough. am i really wrong here by shaving my body? )

- earings, piercings (should i use one ? )

- and last but not least clothing ( some clothes oppinions would be great)


here are some pics to help u guys have a more detailed description

http://pt.netlog.com/_OpenMinded_/photo


any help would be appreciated

 

[oakraiderz2]

Go to the gym and learn how to dress.

 

[Interceptor]

I dont think your 'looks' are the main factor per se.
I think you must have some sort of quality in your interactions that is affecting them.
Perhaps you are not confident enough. Passionate enough. Maybe you're too self deprecating? Seeking approval? Easily offended and too 'hurt' by others?
Look too much for acceptance and approval?
Have no passions or hobbies? Maybe you feel unworthy and inadequate?
Do you have a short temper? Ashamed of sexuality?


Im pretty sure what is happening is that you are somehow not conveying much self respect or self esteem to others. Thus, making you an easier target to bully and pick on.

There's a lack of respect here.


Are you offensive, arrogant, and insulting to women? Or Are you a loyal and trustworthy person?

These are things you have to reflect on for yourself.

I dont believe it has anything to do with your appearance.

 

[Metaphysical]

This entire post is the reason I wrote my book in the first place. Anyway, i'll give you a detailed break down here of what I thought:

Don't take the following as insults to your ego, just learn what you need to change.

- First impression was that you looked like you would fade in the background. That is you don't look dangerous, unique and there's no style that attracts the eye.
- You looked a bit nerdy, not sure what job/field you are into but you need your style definately, so you're on the good path now.
- You seem to be thinning, so get rid of the extra hairs there and shave it all offfff... it looks ridiculous when guys do comb-overs. Shave it to the skull
- You definately need more masculine energy in your body. Even your posture gives away lack of masculinity. You should be hitting the gym ASAP and get 30-40lbs of muscle on yourself. It's not too hard, will take some time but it's totally possible.
- Your clothes don't have any organized style or anything attractive about them. That lose grey t-shirt is about as bad as it can get bro.

Women love colour, they love contrast. This doesn't mean you dress like a fag, but you need to learn to mix and match colours which attract their eyes. Such as blue/white or black/red. Also you gotta buy more fit stuff.

There's a long list of other things I would change but those should get you started for now.

oh.. about the facial hair. try a goattee and a tan, but keep the head shaven. believe me. it may look a bit weird to you, but it looks better to the rest of the world.

 

[NeedToImprove]

i'm working out already

 

[rapidfire]

you look fine the you are.

so you are in porto man? i live in fafe when i am in portugal in the summer time.

 

[kingman]

I think you need to read this thread

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=60870

 

[Darth]

I think you look perfectly fine exactly the way you are. Don't get an earring, don't shave your hair off. Absolutely not. In fact when a lot of people see guys with shaved heads the first thought that comes to mind is that they must have been balding and they are self-conscious. It's the classic coverup.

But my one tip would be- dress better.

 

[Rho]

women actually tell you that your arent attractive enough?

do you ask them or do they just offer this information?

 

[The Bat]

Two years...and same story?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104490

I definitely think you need to work on your inner game like Interceptor suggested. It's been two years, and you have gotten nowhere. What gives man?

 

[bud_2005]

Imo guys who go to tanning salons are kind of queers. I see a lot of guys with orange skin with highlights in their spiked hair and my first thought is f a g. Get your tan naturally from the sun.

 

[DonJuan11]

I'm sick and tired of being told by women i'm not attractive enough, its ****ed up to see other guys being hit on and i dont. i know some guys just can't do anything about the looks department but i wanna give it a try. can u help me here guys?

some things im putting here that might help me or others in the same situation like me

- working out (im not fat, 152 pounds, 5.6 feet)

- tanning (guess it works for really white skin people and with green or blue eyes it works great. a girl said i have dead eyes, they dont shine, i think it might help dunno)

- good haircut ( although im balding and i tried shaving it but i didnt like the outcome, my ear and facial structure dont work with it )

- clean skin (also need some help here, what to do, products to use, etc)

- facial hair (yes or no)

- good cologne (currently im using Acqua di Gió by Giorgio Armani)

- body hair (take it or leave it. today a girl criticized me because i shaved my chest, abs area and armpits. she said i'm not manly enough. am i really wrong here by shaving my body? )

- earings, piercings (should i use one ? )

- and last but not least clothing ( some clothes oppinions would be great)

Two most important things for women are height and hair. which unfortunately men can't change. The hair - see a doctor, your height - get ripped but not too ripped.

Everything else look at tv, magazines, movies.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

oh.. about the facial hair. try a goattee and a tan, but keep the head shaven. believe me. it may look a bit weird to you, but it looks better to the rest of the world.

Interesting you mention that. I got a goattee with really short hair.

But, anyways. I think Interceptor and Metaphysical said it well.

Also, I'm 6'2 and like 160lbs. So, Im pretty skinny. Sure, women like "buff" guys. But, even with my skinny body (which I love no matter what) I still pull women.

Remember... Women aren't based on looks like we are with women.

 

[rapidfire]

Interesting you mention that. I got a goattee with really short hair.

But, anyways. I think Interceptor and Metaphysical said it well.

Also, I'm 6'2 and like 160lbs. So, Im pretty skinny. Sure, women like "buff" guys. But, even with my skinny body (which I love no matter what) I still pull women.

Remember... Women aren't based on looks like we are with women.

they are. they just don't attach as much importance to looks as men do with women. women always check out guys and comment on if their hot or not. if that guy approaches he'll have an easier time.

 

[Protonoto]

Imo guys who go to tanning salons are kind of queers. I see a lot of guys with orange skin with highlights in their spiked hair and my first thought is f a g. Get your tan naturally from the sun.

Mmm yeah it might be a little hard to get a tan if you live in a place that's overcast and rainy most of the year. My first thought is F A G.