"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Staying calm.

PersonalJesus

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Hey, I'm new here, Kinda did some lurking before but never any posting ( I registered a few months back) and have begun on the path of self improvement. I've read the bible a bit and i'm going to read more.


What do you guys do to help yourself stay calm when you're talking to people and in life in general? (like playing football , getting something done, or just chillin out.)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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shiningshadow

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I'm sure he means not getting really excited and giddy. I think of other things, and don't give exciting things all of my attention.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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PersonalJesus said:
Hey, I'm new here, Kinda did some lurking before but never any posting ( I registered a few months back) and have begun on the path of self improvement. I've read the bible a bit and i'm going to read more.


What do you guys do to help yourself stay calm when you're talking to people and in life in general? (like playing football , getting something done, or just chillin out.)
Exactly what about these things makes you not calm?
 

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It's more about just staying cool, calm and in control, you know, everybody knows a person like that who's calm no matter what the situation.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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