"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Squandered opportunity on a great approach

Effington

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Went out last night to a concert and the bar afterwards, had a few approaches with equally humorous results. First was at set break at a pretty big music venue, spotted two hotties that I had to say hi. I told my buddy to play my wingman, he was like what do I do, so I said just come up in 2 minutes and talk to the other girl. Anyway, we talked for about 5 minutes, talking music and BS, I initiated very light kino and she was not receptive, so I said hey, I need to get a beer, I'll see you later.

Later that night I went to the bar, I was actually pretty tipsy, it was probably like 1:00am (bar close is 3 on Saturday), my friends went home and I just stopped for a drink on my way home. There was some weird dude dancing horribly so I commented to some girl that she should dance with him, and she said she tried before, but he got too touchy-feely with her. Next thing I know this guy is grinding on me, I'm like wtf? I brush him off and his buddy literally tries to back his ass into me, I dodged out of the way and he literally ran into the wall, that was pretty funny. I chill at the bar talking to the bartenders who are my buddies, then go to the back bar to talk to the other bartenders, and the girl approached me and asked what I was drinking, I was like beer and just moved on. Chilled there for about 25 minutes then went to the front again, talked to some birthday party for a little. Next thing I know, same girl comes up to me and is grinding HARD on me. She had a rockin' body so I was down. Danced for about 10 minutes then she went to mingle with her friends.

Apparently I was drunk enough not to realize what was going on, so I just went back to drinking and hanging out with some random people. Twenty minutes later some guy was like, hey that hottie looked really into you, I'm like who wouldn't be?? Then I never really bothered to look for her, plus I only really got a good look at her backside. (It's even funnier cause it's true!) She probably thought I wasn't interested. I don't usually go after tall girls (this one was significantly taller than me, actually) which is the main reason why I didn't go after her initially, but damn she could move...that almost made me reconsider.

Anyway just thought I'd share, it's obvious how the two approaches differed and why one was so much more successful than the other. Also helps that the first approach was on a sober one vs. a tipsy one at a "singles" bar.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If this were like that show Deal or No Deal, you just made a horrible deal.

Strike while the iron's hot...
 

Effington

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Retribution comes the next day, as I've turned barfly for the holiday season. Went out with two girlfriends to the bar, they had one drink and had to go because they worked the next day. There was a really good crowd so I decided to stay, flirting with the waitresses and such. Then I snagged a phone # from the hired help, some pretty face the liquor companies hired to go out and endorse their product at the bar, it was definitely quality.

After bar close I went out with the staff to late night, and was flirting with my real target, who is drop dead amazingly gorgeous, but the guys told me she has like six boyfriends, so hesitated on that one.
 
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