Spur of the moment openers/chat up lines

[Solomon79]

I just wanted some advice.

At the moment, I suck at being spontaneous, and I'm trying (and will succeed) to change this.

I'm thinking of those situations where you pass somebody fleetingly, say a waitress or punter at a nightclub, where you have a split second to chat her up - or you risk never seeing her again.

I firmly believe that guys who can pull this off have a huge advantage, because it's a skill in itself. Very easy to mess up and make a fool of yourself, and also very easy to be boring or ask really formal questions that don't make an impact.

So how do you do it? What are the chatline lines in those situations? Do you just ask her name?

At the moment I'm struggling to get beyond 'Hi, how are you?' which is lame, and my mind just goes blank.

I'd like to learn from people who've mastered this skill because it's evidently a life-changer.

 

[joekerr31]

how many times have you seen some guy just start chatting up a woman walking by? i'll tell ya, almost NEVER.

now you might see a guy hit it off with some random woman in a social setting. odds are she was eyeing him from the get go and created an opportunity for him to chat her up.

dont think that 100% of this is all in your hands. women who are interested in you will hover about, creating opportunities.

one of the problems i have with the perception some folks have on here is that with the right tools you can go up to any woman and have her instantly. reality doesn't work that way.

if a chic is attracted to you physical and the general vibe you give of, "hi, how ya doing?" is the best opener you can have.

also, recognize that different women are attracted to different guys. ive seen women go for guys dressed like pimps and talking all kinds of idiotic sh*t. i, as a clean cut white guy would look like a total moron talking like that - no matter what i say to those kinds of girls they aren't going to be interested because they are looking for a Snoop Dogg wanna be.

the key is know who you are, be confident, be in environments where you're 'type' is well regarded, etc.

other than that, read the site for basic tips on how to be witty etc.

what i've learned as i've gotten older is that the less i try, the less i need women, the more they want me and they will actually do all the work.

women have a sixth sense about men. they can smell immaturity, fear, insecurity like a drug dog can smell an egg fart from 500 yards away.

there's really no way to cheat the system. well, you can cheat the system sometimes by having a killer bod - that's about the only thing that seems to now and then short circuit a woman's ability to judge the quality of the man shes dealing with.

so the advice i have is the same as it always is. keep improving your life. keep feeling better about yourself and your life. and just have fun - YOU are the PRIZE.

when you do that you will know what to say. no one here can really tell you, because a line that works for me might not work for you. the best line is whatever line you feel comfortable with.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't expect anyone to be able to tell you a canned line for the unimaginable number of situations that you could encounter. The thing you need to do is take notice of not only the woman but the environment. There are more than enough things to chat about in your shared environment if you choose to notice them.

 

[Zero Hero]

Francisco is right for once...just chat about your shared reality....and read what I put in the main forum.

 

[warpy]

i just try to see what they are doing, adapt to the situation and say something funny that will bust their balls.

example 1:
waitress sitting down instead of tending to customers
line "do they realy pay you to read newspapers instead of working "

example 2:
girl in an elevator looking at the mirror
line "i assure you everything is in the right place, smile."

example 3:
girl in a queue or infront of you in line and instead of asking who is last
line "hey i was here first, smile"

you can then start to talk about anything from that moment on...

some say a simple "hi" works too

 

[KarmaSutra]

Francisco is right for once...just chat about your shared reality....and read what I put in the main forum.

That was uncalled for. I know for a fact he was right one other time.


I think?