"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Spontaneous dates?

War Against Betaism

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What are some good activities you can have a date that doesn't involve the usual dinner and movie? Stuff like ice skating, hiking, something spontaneous and active. I want to do something different from what every other couple that's on a date do. This isn't just to be different for the sake of "impressing" my date either, I'm a guy that loves adventures and having dates where it's just you two having a dinner gets a bit repetitive imo. Although it doesn't seem like the most romantic thing, I've kind of discovered that girls are a lot more down to go on activity filled adventures than guys are. The past couple of weeks I've been doing a lot of activities, like rock climbing, hiking, ice skating, jet skiing, etc, and it's usually me, one or two other guys, and then like 6 or 7 girls. I try to hit up my boys but most of them think it's lame and they would rather chill and smoke cigarettes all day.

[edit] Spontaneous isn't the word I should have used, but I couldn't think of a single word that describes what I'm talking about (and I'm too tired to think right now) and it looks like I can't change the topic title.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There is a 3 mile forest trail in my city, sometimes I would take girls there on my first date.

Then you say, "Wanna race? If you win then I'll let you buy me a smoothie!"

I'm a really fit person so I would like my significant others to be as well :p

There's always this part of the forest that becomes a real narrow trail where the tree limbs are pretty much blocking your way. Also a steep dip where you have to climb down the tree roots protruding out from the ground. Key areas where you can initiate kino.

I usually smoke them but as a consolation prize I tell them they can join me for a smoothie anyways.

I've tried taking a couple girls sky diving as a first date. Needless to say I scared them away for certain haha.

Another time I took this one girl to the Japanese supermarket. Bought some mochi balls, fresh salmon and tuna. Asked them if they wanted to come over to help me make sushi.

It wasn't too long ago that I started recovering from being an AFC.

In hindsight I did event dates without even knowing it. The majority of my dates were always dinner, which I was about to do with my most recent one. Until I found this site and decided to go elsewhere.

My results have always been greater with the event dates, now that I think about it.
 

War Against Betaism

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Making sushi? That sounds pretty creative and fun! Thanks for that suggestion, I'll try it one of these days.
 
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