"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wataf

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Anyone have any experience with this I'm going to be speed dating this weekend. 20 girls 4 mins with each girl, then you write yes no or maybe and people that organize it contact everyone and let you know how you did. Age bracket 25-35 + or - 3.


Tips appreciated
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mike32ct

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It's fun. I've tried it.

The only advice I can give you is to take advantage of the socializing/mingling they have before or after the speed dating session (or both).

Don't limit yourself to just the speed dating session. You are in the closest thing to a singles bar which is great because those places no longer exist lol.

Then check off yes to any of the doable ones. Then you can see if you have any mutual matches.
 

powpow

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I did a speed dating once. you only have a limited amount of time, so its weird. you have to sell yourself without appearing to sell yourself...

try casually dropping out hints of DHV. like tell a story about one of you and your boys, and just casually passively mention something like "and the traffic is so gross in macau we just road mopeds to get where we were going before the bomb blew up"

something fun. if she enjoys your 4 minutes, you will get a yes. just entertain so that you get the yes and then you can have a slower time with her on your date.
 

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Meeting someone can be very difficult these days, especially when there are so many different ways that you can meet a person. One of those popular ways to meet new people is speed dating. Speed dating is a great way to meet many women at one time while trying to find a great girl for you. Whether this is your first speed dating experience or it’s your second and you’re here because things didn’t go so well the first time, here are 8 great speed dating tips that will help you be the guy all the girls want at your next speed dating event.

1. What You Wear Matters

Almost every person you’ll meet during your speed dating will have spent hours trying to look their absolute best so you should do the same. You don’t have to spend hours getting ready, but it is very important that you spend sometime to pick out a quality outfit to make yourself look presentable. Do your hair and a very important one.. Shave! Nobody wants to see stubble’s on a first date, even if it’s just a for a few minutes. If you’re not so good with fashion and knowing what looks good and what does not, I’m sure you have at least one person in your life that can help you figure it out.
 

thevilittletroll

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i've done speed dating a couple of times and looked at it a little differently. i look at it as practicing some basic 5 min sets, with no fear of rejection on your approach. put together a routine stack of about 5 mins then practice it with all the girls. jot down all the girls that you actually find attractive. when you turn in your sheet pick all the girls and see how many of them picked you. that way you'll see how well you routine works. then you can just go out with any of the girls that you actually found attractive. that is if they picked you too.

the first time i did speed dating i only picked 2 girls out of about 20, neither of them picked me, so i wasnt sure if any of the other girls liked me either. i was hard on myself and thought i was doing everything wrong. once i started picking them all i realized that i wasnt as bad as i thought.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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