"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SoSuave. your one stop shop or not.

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Something Ive realized about the SoSuave forum.

Guys and I mean alot the guys come here to sosuave for their girl problems, which includes myself.

But this is the thing that gets me.

It seems that people are looking for a definite answer to everything. from what does this girl mean or is she **** testing me to this woman must have BPD.

There are no definite answer just experiences and analysis. One way to approach may not be the same for another person.

So go out there, make mistakes and LEARN from them.

Coming on here to look for a simple answer will not get you anywhere. you have to go out explore the world and draw your own conclusions.

Dont get me wrong SoSuave is great for a backbone, but the rest is up to you.

Dont come here asking the same questions that have been asked over the past 10 years, USE the search function.

BE POSITIVE!!

EXPLORE THE WORLD AND THE MEN AND WOMEN WITHIN IT.

Learning from your own experience is the best teacher. better than any of the posters here.

GOOD LUCK!!!
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Great post Pokerstar. I agree with you 100%.

Lots of posters on here think that there's a universal answer to all women.. But not all women think and act the same. Just like all men don't think and act the same.

Another thing is, people posting on here need to be FEARLESS. If a girl says something to you that seems like a "sh1t test" or she's about to dump you.. Don't get too wrapped up in it. Just do your own thing. By doing your own thing, you show confidence and that she's not affecting you.
 

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to me there two ways you can go through life.

negative - where woe is me. she dont like me. i cant get a girl. i wish i had a better job, more money, better house.

or

positive - i might not be perferct but i can strive to be. I want to work on myself, become better, stronger. I dont need what other people need. im self sufficient and that makes me confident.
 

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great post, hey pokerstar do you play poker? Just wondering , I love poker, its such a great game.
 

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yeah i do. havent been playing online much lately. with work, school, jiujitsu, dates and yoga, i cant sit for hours on end to play.

i will get back in it. but now is not the time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I always say this:

"Assume capability."

If you assume you're capable of something, you'll do this:

1) Figure out what you want to do (ex: learn boxing) and assume you can learn how
2) Figure out how to do it (look for classes)
3) Do it (take classes)
4) Repeat step 3 until it's done
5) Win

If you, like most people, question your capability before testing it, then this happens:

1) Figure out what you want to do
2) Cry like a little b*tch
3) Repeat step 2 until death

Every day goals and happiness isn't rocket science. If you know what you want, there isn't a ton of analysis involved in getting it.

If you have doubts about whether you can achieve what you want in life (or at least 50 percent of what you want in life), challenge yourself to really ask whether it's because you REALLY don't know how to do something, or because you're too afraid/unwilling to do the work involved.

Be yourself - the best version of yourself.
 

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Awesome post!

Stop wishing you were better. If you want to become a better man, get off your ass and handle your business.

Case closed. I'm proud of you Pokerstar!
 
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