"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Soreness in thighs

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I've been jogging/running off and on for a while now and did 6.5 miles not too long ago, and possibly over-exerted myself. After that I tried to rest and do nothing for 6 days and then tried to jog but had a soreness in my thighs that started as soon as I started to run. I waited 4 or 5 more days and then started to run but had the same problem as soon as I started to run again.

Does anyone know what this could be and what I can do about it.

Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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6 days is a fairly long time between your sessions. If you were weight training it would be different, as your muscles need the time to recover. But in your case you should be running/jogging at least 3 times a week. Are you doing it for any particular reason? Sports-specific, health related, weight-loss?
 

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Yeah, you may have overexerted yourself. But 6 days? Your poor recovery time may as well be due to lack of nutrients entering your body. Either protein shakes, bananas, and tons of water should do.

6.5 miles wouldn't be an issue, of course, if you do this on a regular basis. I'm assuming you don't. But at the same time, jogging just a bit the day after helps too, the bloodflow helps get the lactic acid out of your system faster, jog enough to get your heart rate going for a sustained 10-15 minutes (try 1 1/2 miles), but not so fast that you're pushing yourself. You shouldn't even hit 'the wall'.

G'luck.
 
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Yeah I'm basically jogging to lose weight and to get endurance. The problem is that everytime I try to run now I cant go more than a couple minutes before I start to feel the soreness.

Cardiovascularly, I would say that I am in shape, but the problem is that my legs arent allowing me to do the exercise, even though i've been resting.
 

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You need to work on raising your lactate threshold. When you exercise, don't go for the burn. Push yourself to just shy of the point that you would start to feel "the burn."

Basically, push yourself to right at the red line and hold it, keep exercising at that level. Your body will get use to exercising at that level and it will gradually increase the longer you can exercise at that level.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/16/h...ml?ex=1148270400&en=20f4ef2ebe899cb7&ei=5087

May 16, 2006
Lactic Acid Is Not Muscles' Foe, It's Fuel
By GINA KOLATA

Everyone who has even thought about exercising has heard the warnings about lactic acid. It builds up in your muscles. It is what makes your muscles burn. Its buildup is what makes your muscles tire and give out.

Coaches and personal trainers tell athletes and exercisers that they have to learn to work out at just below their "lactic threshold," that point of diminishing returns when lactic acid starts to accumulate. Some athletes even have blood tests to find their personal lactic thresholds.

But that, it turns out, is all wrong. Lactic acid is actually a fuel, not a caustic waste product. Muscles make it deliberately, producing it from glucose, and they burn it to obtain energy. The reason trained athletes can perform so hard and so long is because their intense training causes their muscles to adapt so they more readily and efficiently absorb lactic acid. (article continues)
 
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