Soo... Do I talk to ex gf? Or not?

[Bigg Boss]

Will that show weakness if I talk to her?

We just broke up after 8 months (we have before). We always have fun when together but I guess since we weren't on each others nuts (well nuts and vagina) 24/7, she felt like she was missin somethin. So we seperated. But she sent me a messages saying :

Ryan i noe i hurt your feelings cus i hurt mine too. but i just want to say im sorry and that i think it was for the better. I dont think you were the rite one for me and eventhough i always have a good time wit you somethin still felt like it was missin and i think you felt that too. I love you wit all my heart and i hope you believe that but i just think it was time for us to seperate. i hope we can still talk, and when your not upset call me or somethin. Love Meah


Now... I'm OK with the break up. I mean, I guess I got kinda bored of her, but I still loved her none the less. It's just I know we could be good friends.

But on the other hand, should I just forget her? Do you ever hang with your exs? I'm all for making someone jealous (especially this someone for breaking up with me), but I can't do that if I ain't around her... Yeah I'm a ****ed up guy but I'm being real wit yall.

Anyway, no I'm not mourning over it like last time. I'm coo now.

 

[Phyzzle]

Do you ever hang with your exs?

No, I don't see the point, unless you have zero attraction.

When you're hanging out and being friends, she's gonna let slip about some guy that she's hanging out with a lot. You're just setting yourself up for pain.

You should be too busy to hang out with exes.

 

[mrRuckus]

Ryan i noe i hurt your feelings cus i hurt mine too. but i just want to say im sorry and that i think it was for the better. I dont think you were the rite one for me and eventhough i always have a good time wit you somethin still felt like it was missin and i think you felt that too. I love you wit all my heart and i hope you believe that but i just think it was time for us to seperate. i hope we can still talk, and when your not upset call me or somethin. Love Meah

You should only go out with girls that can write.

 

[insanity]

saying (move on) ain't no cure. trying to come up with ways to make her jealous
is only going to prolong your pain and suffering. right now she's out testing the waters, why not do that yourself. if your looking to make her jealous than thats a slight clue that there's still love in your heart.

i read her little note to you and it seems she let you go and that probably bruised the 'ol ego a little bit. some girls take a bit to get over. but the cool thing is you will get over her!

focus on a hobby or get out with your friends and have a riot. and don't be the friend that does nothing but mope around all night thinking about her.

 

[Bigg Boss]

Aight that's coo

Funny thing is, this one girl called me up that I've been talkin to (just practicin game on her, for soem reason, I'm really suave when I"m talkin to her). She asked me about my gf and I told her we broke it off.

And now she's really feelin me. Lol as a matter of fact, 2 girls have caught the fact that I took off my relationship status on my pages.

 

[DarkLight]

Move on!
Straight Up!

You want to make her jealous...

Forget about her.
Lift your spirits.
Become a better man.
Find a better woman! (Women)

Boom.
Case Closed

 

[Ace of Flames]

Will that show weakness if I talk to her?

It actually shows more weakness if you DON'T talk to her.

Don't get me wrong, you don't have to stay friends or hang out or anything. But if you pass by her in the hall, if you see her at a bar, whatever might happen, just be polite and say hi.

If you avoid her like the plauge, and leave the area if she happens to be there, then that means she has quite the effect on your life, don't you think? I mean, she just has to get nearby and you run away. That's weak.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

But on the other hand, should I just forget her? Do you ever hang with your exs? I'm all for making someone jealous (especially this someone for breaking up with me), but I can't do that if I ain't around her... Yeah I'm a ****ed up guy but I'm being real wit yall.

Anyway, no I'm not mourning over it like last time. I'm coo now.

Are you sure you're not mourning? It sounds like you at least miss her. Look, the girl may be manipulating you or whatnot, but I read her letter and she sounds half-genuine, if she feels bad for you then she obviously wants you as a friend, and this COULD lead to intimacy again, although I'm not sure about those chances.

There are 3 things you can do.

1) Write back to her, saying how you aren't that hurt and then give her some compliments, make her feel GOOD about herself, i mean, its not that hard!

2) If you're just sick of her, just FORGET about her.

3) If you really are into the "making her jealous" thing, maybe you can pull this off in a really creative way... but this should be your last choice.

If I were you I'd REALLY consider the 1st choice... you sound like you still want her as a friend. Just be honest, tell her how you feel, but don't sound desperate. Also, about the honesty thing... if you really AREN'T over her, don't say stuff like "I'm over you"... just tell her what's on your mind... you have to be careful with a lot of the techniques to talking to women... they're all very important, but you can let these techniques substitute for who YOU are!

 

[Colinski282]

Will that show weakness if I talk to her?

We just broke up after 8 months (we have before). We always have fun when together but I guess since we weren't on each others nuts (well nuts and vagina) 24/7, she felt like she was missin somethin. So we seperated. But she sent me a messages saying :

Ryan i noe i hurt your feelings cus i hurt mine too. but i just want to say im sorry and that i think it was for the better. I dont think you were the rite one for me and eventhough i always have a good time wit you somethin still felt like it was missin and i think you felt that too. I love you wit all my heart and i hope you believe that but i just think it was time for us to seperate. i hope we can still talk, and when your not upset call me or somethin. Love Meah





Now... I'm OK with the break up. I mean, I guess I got kinda bored of her, but I still loved her none the less. It's just I know we could be good friends.

But on the other hand, should I just forget her? Do you ever hang with your exs? I'm all for making someone jealous (especially this someone for breaking up with me), but I can't do that if I ain't around her... Yeah I'm a ****ed up guy but I'm being real wit yall.

Anyway, no I'm not mourning over it like last time. I'm coo now.

OKay this is has my been my course of action and it has yielded bitter sweet results...my girl of 8 months too broke up with me while she was on vacation for 2 months, after the break up i was not rude and did not call her once, did not text her once, and a couple of weeks of being totally off her radar she texted me. I would respond and not delve into any questions about what going on in her life. Now she initated a meeting to which i purposely put a fire in my eye, and good posture but never needy and never wanting to kiss. She ate it up and came over tonight and we made out.


Now this is bitter sweet because i am not getting back with her.....and i think this has been the secret because once i accepted this i could play my game with no hesitation

 

[Colinski282]

Originally Posted by reallyfreakinlost
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1) Write back to her, saying how you aren't that hurt and then give her some compliments, make her feel GOOD about herself, i mean, its not that hard!

2) If you're just sick of her, just FORGET about her.

3) If you really are into the "making her jealous" thing, maybe you can pull this off in a really creative way... but this should be your last choice.
""



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#1 do not write, writing shows u need her back, ur a are the prize she lost.

#2 Yes

#3 jealousy projects the wrong feelings, instead have 3 new girls and ur ex will find out on her own. If you still want physical interaction with her why not let her be another fish in the sea....she has entered back into it and now catch her back

 

[Scorched]

...

nothing positive will come out of this...
she's got problems...

having power over her would be nice, but I would just ignore her and if you do have to respond, keep it short!

 

[Bigg Boss]

I replied last night with:

Umm... No you didn't really hurt my feelings because I felt that coming by the way you act. It's been obvious.

But it's whatever. Well not whatever. It's over. So I'm sure since you did it for the better, you'll be happy with it soon. Don't worry bout me being sad tho! lol

I'll see ya when I see ya, BUT YOULL PROLLY SEE ME FIRST

lol i'm playin, but i'm out. l8r



I sorta miss her but it's the kind of miss where you've been with something for a good amount of time and now that it's gone, you gotta deal with change. And alot of people don't like change.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

I replied last night with:

Umm... No you didn't really hurt my feelings because I felt that coming by the way you act. It's been obvious.

But it's whatever. Well not whatever. It's over. So I'm sure since you did it for the better, you'll be happy with it soon. Don't worry bout me being sad tho! lol

I'll see ya when I see ya, BUT YOULL PROLLY SEE ME FIRST

lol i'm playin, but i'm out. l8r

"you'll prolly see me first"?? you sound like a stalker dude... not cool. if its "whatever" but then "not whatever" but then "dont' worry bout me being sad" you sound very confused. Just pick 1) Stalker or 2) Move on.... but don't try being both at the same time!

 

[insanity]

oh no big boss. you killed it with your reply. maybe it was for the better though.
that reply was letting her know who miserable you are without her. and you just affirmed to her that she would be happy without you.

now is your big chance to go out and be happy without her. the quicker you move on and find a new girl the faster she'll re-appear into your life saying she made a mistake. you'll feel better once you get a new girl honestly.

 

[Bigg Boss]

wow lol I guess I'm not a good writer

Oh well, best I can do now is forget about it cuz I F'ed up. It'll be interesting to see her reply

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

wow lol I guess I'm not a good writer

Oh well, best I can do now is forget about it cuz I F'ed up. It'll be interesting to see her reply

Seriously, stop sitting by the phone or computer waiting for her to contact you and do something productive... What is this waiting for her reply going to do, you seriously have no hobbies at all? I'm not one to say, since I'm bored most the time, but you seriously need to step out of your fantasy world, look she's NOT GOING to REPLY. Maybe if you put ONE OUNCE of honesty into your messages, and not all this bullsh*t she would've but that's WAY too late... if i were her I'd be sick of your BS too!