something's not right

[drift king]

if things seem awkward or strange after a 2nd date should u wait a while before attempting to meet up again (even if u speculatively agree to meet 2 days later)?

i dont like how they tell u they not making plans or sponaneous so dont want to be tied down.. it makes me realise that their interest level isnt high anymore otherwise they'd be looking to see u again asap.

is it better to back off for a bit make her wonder why he didn't call?

 

[drift king]

i had a good enough 2nd date with this girl yesterday but she won't kiss me properly.. she's been brought up traditionally and didnt have any contact with guys for bf till she was at least 18 and since then shes only had 2 long term bf's.

just now when i went back to my dorms she was in reception but i didnt recognise her at 1st cos she had her hair different and i only saw her from behind, she suddenly turns round and goes hey... i was stunned cos i was trying to mack on her cos i thought she was some1 else and this threw me off that i didnt even respond initially i was in shock, so i forgot to kiss her i was generally quite cold, she was there with her male best friend so it mighta looked like i was jealous.. i spent the whole time being cool to him chatting kinda ignoring her.

he invited me to come along and eat with them but i had plans to go somewhere so i couldn't.. he invited me again as they were walking out and she said to him 'he cant he has to go somewhere'

the whole conversation period she was kinda discluded and disinterested and i just wanted to make a good impression on her best friend so kinda neglected her i think.. she just played with her phone as me and him chatted.

when i kissed her goodbye she seemed still disinterested or bored.. i duno.. its like her IL dropped.

im suppose to call her to meet up tomorrow, should i forget it and just leave it for a bit?

im concerned that if she isn't as into me anymore the worse thing i can do would be to appear desperate and follow up a meeting so soon after 2nd date even tho it was prearranged.. i guess i should be busy.

 

[scottfall]

Ide wait for her to call you to set something up. You cant let things bother you, if her IL has dropped there is nothing you can do to bring it back up EXCEPT for being yourself(fun, joke, kino, tease).

 

[kingy]

yeah if the girl is really into you she will want to see you soon. but a HOT girl will have lots of things going on, so dont take it personal and just stay in her life showing that you are a cool guy and adventually she will be bored one night and then bang ;-)

if she wont kiss then u are probably messing up somewhere, most girls will kiss in isolation.

 

[drift king]

would you suggest for a 3rd meeting i do something fun like an action date?

i was gona take her pool 1st on the 2nd date but when i told her she was like NO! i hate pool.. so i had to move straight to the 2nd part of the date.

maybe playing tennis would be a better idea.. also i think i'm DLV'ing myself a bit cos i say things like whichever country gets her next will be really lucky but then straight after i follow on that whichever country gets me will too..

i sense her IL has really dropped so i may need to cool seeing her this week just to give her mixed signals that maybe i've lost interest too.. that might make her seek me out to see why its dropped, but maybe i need to be a bit distant too.. i feel a 'lets just be friends' speech coming along sometime soon.

maybe lay off the trying to kiss her? she seemed to feel uncomfortable me moving in all the time. i guess i can do other stuff unrelated to kissing her properly.