Okay, the last few threads have been basically depressing, so, in the interest of mental health I will give you a good story. Now, for the religeous right in here, just a warning now...DONT READ THIS, JUST FUKC OFF NOW! Or, if you do read it, don't bother posting your beliefs at me...deal?
So, many of you remember I was having a couple of flings here and there and feeling a bit guilty because I was married. Anyway, there was this one little honey who I had tried to get with but couldn't get past the whole "lets just be friends" shyte. Anyway, I was kinda cool wth that cause she is a great sheila and was perhaps a little young for me.
So, when I seperated I decided to not pursue any women for 2 reasons, 1. To step back and evaluate myself and 2. I didn't think it would be good to seperate and immediately be with someone else anyway, it would make it appear that I left FOR someone else, rather than leaving for my own reasons. Too hurtful.
So, I threw myself heavily into my business, became assertive again like I once had been. Went to the gym 6 days a week and really just "cooked with gas" on self improvement. I took up Karate Do again, it had been months, I am a 1st Dan. I saw my kids once per week and every second Weekend and tried to stay close to my ex wife. (Having trouble there, but thats another story).
I also got back into surfing and my hair started to re-blonde up, my skin got browner, my muscles were clean, fairly cut and I went out and added some more Versace and Armani to my collection....BUT...I avoided women. I was polite and would talk, but didn't try to get into anyones pants.
So, my friend asked me wat I was doing and I told her straight, no women for at least a year, not interested. Now I have 2 little honies after me, her being one of them. Unfortunately I fell off the wagon with my friend and have been seeing her quite a bit. I am 38, she is 22 and a stunner...hb9? I guess.
So, what can be learned from this? Now, at the risk of sounding arrogant I am fairly good looking and fairly successful, but I always was. It was not the marriage that stopped this girl, hell, women almost prefer taken men. It was the fact that I had my SHYTE together and was not pursuing her at all.
When I was breaking up with my wife she was trying to get really sexual and close again. I asked her why and she explained that I had become the man she had married...assertive, strong and focussed. I had lost a lot of that whilst clinging to the marriage. I would be all suave with other chicks, but played the dutiful AFC husband to my wife and se didn't feel attracted to it. Mind you, if I had stayed we would have fallen back into that role again, just a matter of time.
Women want many things, but one thing that can really turn them on is having what is hard to get. NOW, dont ACT hard to get, just BE hard to get. Have your own shyte to do, have your aims and goals for YOU in place. There is nothing more attractive than success.
I have preached this time and again but then I read threads like "what does this mean?" followed by five paragraphs of he said/she said. Its pointless, its afc, its oneitis, its fukcing everything the bible says not to do. The bible is just words, dont text proff it to hear what you want to hear. Dont ask blokes for an opinion, searching for a response. Play it straight, knock them off that pedastal and be your own man...the chicks and other great benefits will follow.
There you go, a true life analogy from a 38 year old seperated bloke who even has grey hair flecking his temple region. Mind you, for some reason the girls in their early twenties really go for the grey bits, they find it distinguished....go figure?
Good luck, but dont ask dumbass questions, improve your game by focussing on the bigger game....YOUR LIFE.
So, many of you remember I was having a couple of flings here and there and feeling a bit guilty because I was married. Anyway, there was this one little honey who I had tried to get with but couldn't get past the whole "lets just be friends" shyte. Anyway, I was kinda cool wth that cause she is a great sheila and was perhaps a little young for me.
So, when I seperated I decided to not pursue any women for 2 reasons, 1. To step back and evaluate myself and 2. I didn't think it would be good to seperate and immediately be with someone else anyway, it would make it appear that I left FOR someone else, rather than leaving for my own reasons. Too hurtful.
So, I threw myself heavily into my business, became assertive again like I once had been. Went to the gym 6 days a week and really just "cooked with gas" on self improvement. I took up Karate Do again, it had been months, I am a 1st Dan. I saw my kids once per week and every second Weekend and tried to stay close to my ex wife. (Having trouble there, but thats another story).
I also got back into surfing and my hair started to re-blonde up, my skin got browner, my muscles were clean, fairly cut and I went out and added some more Versace and Armani to my collection....BUT...I avoided women. I was polite and would talk, but didn't try to get into anyones pants.
So, my friend asked me wat I was doing and I told her straight, no women for at least a year, not interested. Now I have 2 little honies after me, her being one of them. Unfortunately I fell off the wagon with my friend and have been seeing her quite a bit. I am 38, she is 22 and a stunner...hb9? I guess.
So, what can be learned from this? Now, at the risk of sounding arrogant I am fairly good looking and fairly successful, but I always was. It was not the marriage that stopped this girl, hell, women almost prefer taken men. It was the fact that I had my SHYTE together and was not pursuing her at all.
When I was breaking up with my wife she was trying to get really sexual and close again. I asked her why and she explained that I had become the man she had married...assertive, strong and focussed. I had lost a lot of that whilst clinging to the marriage. I would be all suave with other chicks, but played the dutiful AFC husband to my wife and se didn't feel attracted to it. Mind you, if I had stayed we would have fallen back into that role again, just a matter of time.
Women want many things, but one thing that can really turn them on is having what is hard to get. NOW, dont ACT hard to get, just BE hard to get. Have your own shyte to do, have your aims and goals for YOU in place. There is nothing more attractive than success.
I have preached this time and again but then I read threads like "what does this mean?" followed by five paragraphs of he said/she said. Its pointless, its afc, its oneitis, its fukcing everything the bible says not to do. The bible is just words, dont text proff it to hear what you want to hear. Dont ask blokes for an opinion, searching for a response. Play it straight, knock them off that pedastal and be your own man...the chicks and other great benefits will follow.
There you go, a true life analogy from a 38 year old seperated bloke who even has grey hair flecking his temple region. Mind you, for some reason the girls in their early twenties really go for the grey bits, they find it distinguished....go figure?
Good luck, but dont ask dumbass questions, improve your game by focussing on the bigger game....YOUR LIFE.
