"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Something i found on here - a must read

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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A bloody fcuking amazing read!

Damn that's like the best post ive read up to date... :eek:

It does explain a lot, and it has further reinforced some of the things that i have been dwindling around about trusting your gut and not over doing it with formulas and whatnot...

A bloody fcuking amazing read, it's one of Pooks best and intuitive posts that i have read ( i like the style he uses, it seems to me i was watching a movie when i was reading that post!).

Anyone else that has doubts in themeslves should read this and heed it's powerful words... it emcompasses what i think a DJ's train of thought should be!
 

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Am I the only guy on this board who doesn't like Pook's posts?

To his credit, he has contributed some great ideas, many of which I agree with, but his writing style is long-winded, takes forever to reach a point and always strikes me as quite patronising.
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
Am I the only guy on this board who doesn't like Pook's posts?

To his credit, he has contributed some great ideas, many of which I agree with, but his writing style is long-winded, takes forever to reach a point and always strikes me as quite patronising.
The problem is not his posts itself but the way he writes it. It´s pretty annoying (those conversations mode), long-winded and as you said "takes forever to reach the core". But it´s his style and there´s nothing we can do, but to deal with!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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haha Jariel, stole the words out of my mouth. Pook's advice is the best on this site material wise, but it's way too annoying to read
 

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Pook is the Socrates of the DJ Forum and the reason I got involved here. If you have difficulty understanding his words, it's because you lack patience. Fastseduction might be a better site for you, but you'll eventually come back to re-read Pooks sage wisdom.
 

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Pook is the Socrates of the DJ Forum and the reason I got involved here. If you have difficulty understanding his words, it's because you lack patience. Fastseduction might be a better site for you, but you'll eventually come back to re-read Pooks sage wisdom.
I think the only one not understanding things here is you. No one said anything about not being able to understand Pook's posts. And no one said Pook's material is bad, he writes the best tips on the site.

The point everyone was trying to make was that his posts are long-winded, and annoying to read through. He has amazing material, but takes way too much time & words to get to the point. If he would skip the theatrics (like giving an imaginary lecture to a group of women in "be a man"), and get to the point, his tips would be much less annoying to read through.

You mentioned you were a Psychologist in one of your previous posts. I don't know if you are a prof, or have ever worked as a TA, but when I was a TA, there was nothing I hated more then marking a paper where the guy wrote pages and pages of unnecessery paragraphs only to get to one good point. I'm sure Pook's flashy writting style will impress the high schoolers on sosuave who think they're overcoming some challange by being able to read them, but for most university students/graduates, it's just annoying to read through.

Less is more sometimes.
 
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As I said, if you're looking for quick-hit sound bites and 'McAdvice' maybe Pook isn't for you. Fastseduction would be a better alternative for shorter attention spans.

Yes, Pook can be long winded and when was the last time he posted, 2001? He puts down his thoughts more eloquently, but if someone is proud of themselves for translating them I'd suggest reading Aristotle. I'm not even intimating that Pook is even all that 'high-brow', so what? If you don't get Pook, does it invalidate what what he says because he likes to illustrate his points a bit more?
 

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It´s not a matter of understanding!

It´s simply a matter of writing style, just that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yes, Pook can be long winded and when was the last time he posted, 2001? He puts down his thoughts more eloquently, but if someone is proud of themselves for translating them I'd suggest reading Aristotle. I'm not even intimating that Pook is even all that 'high-brow', so what? If you don't get Pook, does it invalidate what what he says because he likes to illustrate his points a bit more?
I'm seriously starting to question your communication skills. If English is your second language let me know and I'll go slower. No one said anything about not being able to understand Pook. The point everyone was trying to make, and that you for some reason cannot comprehend, is that it is an annoying style of writting to read through for some people.

I'm glad you think Aristotle is challenging, and while you're at it go pick up some writtings by Heraclitus, Theles and Anixamander for all I care. I'm sure others will be more impressed by your ability to read translated texts then I will.

No one is saying Pook is a bad writer, or that his material is difficult to understand. People are just saying that his style of writting can be annoying to read. Just because a tip is short, and straight to the point does not make it "McAdvice" or a bad tip. For example:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20773
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55708
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16979

All good tips, straight to the point, without theatrics, or unnecessery fillers. Does that make them worse then Pook's? No. Does it make Pook's worse then theirs? No. Pook's tips are the best ones on the site material wise.

It just means they have different writting styles. Some people like Pook's writting style because it makes them feel like they're watching a movie (as someone said earlier in the thread), others read through it and wish he'd get to the point.

The reason I'm giving you a hard time about all this is because you come off a bit condescending. Assuming someone is stupid for not enjoying a particular style of writting, and then telling them to go to fastseduction.com is an elitist attitude. May wanna drop it and people will listen to your points.
 

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As it has been said, it's not that we have trouble understanding Pook's writing, it's quite the opposite. We understand it, we get the point, and this is why we do not need it spelling out for us.

Imagine stopping to ask for directions and being read a long extract of prose. As Mind over Matter said, Pook's tips are possibly the best on the site and we're not even saying Pook is a bad writer, but it's just not an appropriate style to give directions and advice.
 

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I think he uses this style on purpose to ingrain these points into our heads. I like the way he articulates himself, its like he's telling a story. I think its alot better than just posting a bunch of bullet points.
 

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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
I'm seriously starting to question your communication skills. If English is your second language let me know and I'll go slower. No one said anything about not being able to understand Pook. The point everyone was trying to make, and that you for some reason cannot comprehend, is that it is an annoying style of writting to read through for some people.

I'm glad you think Aristotle is challenging, and while you're at it go pick up some writtings by Heraclitus, Theles and Anixamander for all I care. I'm sure others will be more impressed by your ability to read translated texts then I will.

No one is saying Pook is a bad writer, or that his material is difficult to understand. People are just saying that his style of writting can be annoying to read. Just because a tip is short, and straight to the point does not make it "McAdvice" or a bad tip. For example:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20773
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55708
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16979

All good tips, straight to the point, without theatrics, or unnecessery fillers. Does that make them worse then Pook's? No. Does it make Pook's worse then theirs? No. Pook's tips are the best ones on the site material wise.

It just means they have different writting styles. Some people like Pook's writting style because it makes them feel like they're watching a movie (as someone said earlier in the thread), others read through it and wish he'd get to the point.

The reason I'm giving you a hard time about all this is because you come off a bit condescending. Assuming someone is stupid for not enjoying a particular style of writting, and then telling them to go to fastseduction.com is an elitist attitude. May wanna drop it and people will listen to your points.
I don't care too much for Pook's advice, but if you're complaining about him being long winded, perhaps you should read your above response.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Pook is the Socrates of the DJ Forum and the reason I got involved here. If you have difficulty understanding his words, it's because you lack patience. Fastseduction might be a better site for you, but you'll eventually come back to re-read Pooks sage wisdom.
What a crock. Wisdom is in the message, not the words. "If I only had more time, I could write shorter letters" -- Thomas Jefferson.

Pook may have great points, but his verbose and long-winded style of writing, while maybe sometimes slightly entertaining, does little to nothing to enhance or reinforce his message, the only thing I'm interested in. There's nothing wrong with the general style of writing he uses in his long tips posts, but he could do better to.. cut out the fat, you might say.

That said, I've always enjoyed Pook's posts because I think they do contain a lot of wisdom, and never really thought much about his writing style (although I did often find myself waiting for him to get to the point). I just thought it was pretty patronizing and flat-our wrong the way you suggested someone isn't "ready for such 'wisdom'" just because they're annoyed with the verbose way in which Pook gets his points across.
 

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I don't care too much for Pook's advice, but if you're complaining about him being long winded, perhaps you should read your above response.
No, perhaps you should read the whole thread. My first response was short and straight to the point. The reader I was addressing in that post you just quoted didn't seem to get it, and I had explain it again. If you don't have anything to contribute to the conversation, stay the f out.
 
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