"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Someone's gonna get hurt...

C

Charlie_aus

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2005
Messages
34
Reaction score
0
Whats the best reply to a chick who is unsure because she is scared of getting hurt and thinks its gonna be her?

The best I could come up with on the spot was "trust me".

Incidentially I am not out for a STR with this one....but to get her LOI up I have been the "player".

-Charlie
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

E

ezilonman

Don Juan
Joined
May 17, 2005
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
seriously it is a damn catch 22 with some girls.

You do your "player" thing to get them interested...but then they get all insecure because they think you might hurt them because you act like a "player".
 
W

wind20mph

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 8, 2005
Messages
188
Reaction score
0
Age
50
Funny, why are you so naive? If I were you I'll change the topic to a more fun and interesting one. You must build a rapport before you go to work it out to a deeper relation. If you get that right, you will never hear that reply of scared of getting hurt.
 
T

themanwithnoname

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 17, 2005
Messages
245
Reaction score
0
Location
California
why should DJs do all the work on creating rapport? if anything, a girl should be the one asking questions. relationships is a 2-way street.
 
C

Charlie_aus

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2005
Messages
34
Reaction score
0
Some good answers to this one.

Ezilonman: you right it is catch22.

wind20mph: you are also right, but to think that you must establish communication before you go to a deeper relationship is not quite that easy. I believe that people are built differently and some people put their heart on the line quicker than others.

It also still doesnt change the fact that she doesnt want to get emotianally attached for fear of getting hurt. A good answer is going to be one that is gonna reassure her - but to reassure her with words of finesse is not easy either?

-Charlie
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

M

MidnightResistance

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2005
Messages
201
Reaction score
0
Age
43
Location
London
It's so simple.

Women want security
Men want sex and food.

So put your arms around her and tell her everything will be alright. ;)
 
C

Charlie_aus

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2005
Messages
34
Reaction score
0
I think its all irrelevant now because ... NEXT... I called her for a drink tonight and got no answer but a short time later got a text asking what was up?

I textd back after a suitable delay for coffee but this one said they were out and didnt reschedule...

I think I was too keen, and as they say they can smell it a mile off.

-C
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top