My younger brother just told me a story that makes me feel like writing.
My 1 year LTR is over since 10 weeks. She ended it after not getting what she wanted once again, then came back, I never gave her the chance to come back.
My reason for break-up: incompatibility, too many red flags, not the kind of women I want to settle for in the long term, too much self-improvement to do on myself before I can settle. LTR ended.
In those 10 weeks I contacted her 2 times:
1) Text message "Happy birthday, have fun this weekend" 3 weeks after the break-up
2) We had planned a trip together in july, I went alone. Originally, we thought getting nothing back from the ticket (she knew this at breakup). When I was at the airport the day of departure, they told me I would get 120$ back for her ticket. So I transfered this amount to her bankaccount 2 weeks ago with the message "tax chargeback from your trip".
In those 10 weeks She contacted me several times a week during the 3 first weeks. She wanted me back, felt bad, I was everything for her, bla bla. Didn't give her the chance to come back, my decision was final.
As a feminist, who was proud of telling me that she was the one that ended all the LTR's she had before me, she took this bad of course. Her wording is that she ended the LTRs, the thruth (I knew it when she told me & I know it know even better) is different.
So she phoned me several times during the first 3 weeks after the breakup & I ignore her. Then she stops contacting me. 1 week later it's her birthday: out of respect for somebody i've been involved with for 1 year, I sms her my congratulations. Of course I get no answer anymore, the roles are inverted she might think as I'm the one to contact her then.
But of course I do not, it is not trying to contact her it's a one shot congratulations for her birthday (I wouldn't have messaged her if it would have been 6 months later).
She doesn't hear about me anymore, untill I transfer the money to her bank account 2 weeks ago. Haven't received any thank you note for this either.
Did I expect to receive a thank you for both events?
No I knew I wouldn't any response. She's possible laughing with me that I'm so dumb to give her her money back.
Would I do it again, knowing her reaction?
Yes definitely, it's her money. Same thing for the birthday.
Now the story.
My brother just told me that he met her at a club 3 weeks ago. She talked to him of course.
Her story:
"Yes I'm doing really fine, I'm glad I ended the LTR, it was definitely the best decision I made, newbie81 is really an egoist, right now I have somebody else, no it's not official yet, were just sending sms"
So let's analyze: so wants me to hear through my brother that
-She's doing fine without me, she even has someone else
-She dumped me because i'm an egoist, she's glad that she took the decision.
This same "I dumped him" story, she'll tell to everybody, the same way she told it to me when I was with her.
Now why did I start this thread?
The moment my brother told me this, I thought: you fvckin' biatch!
I admit that technically, she is right: she ended the LTR. What she probably doesn't realize is that I was done with her several weeks earlier, I didn't cheat, I didn't have somebody else, I just didn't had the guts to end it.
When she ended it, I took my chance & left, never came back.
As always: women can make decisions without thinking about consequences. When she faced the consequences, she came back, but I didn't give her the chance to.
Now she's telling everybody that she dumped me. Hehe, I won't defend myself to anybody. If she wants to tell people this, if this makes her feel good: why not, tell it. Just one thing lady: There's no glory to end an LTR.
You can end an LTR for two reasons:
1) You do not match, so basically you have made a bad judgement in the beginning
2) Your partner did something bad, for which you couldn't stay anymore with him.
I admit that I made a bad judgement regarding her. When people tell me why it's over I answer "incompatibility in the long-term". When they ask me who ended it, I answer "does this matter?" When they insist, I answer "she ended it, came back, i didn't came back".
What about her?
-Did she made a bad judgement? No certainly not I was the catch, I wish the next guy good luck, it will be hard to be a good replacement for me, I have set the bar high to her.
-Did I do something wrong? From her wording: "I'm an egoist". Is this true? Yes, and that's why I left. She takes this as a reason for the breakup, but the thruth is she has no reason: I didn't do anything to her, I didn't cheat, I didn't steal, I didn't mistreat her, I didn't lie, in fact she dumped me & I didn't came back. I even gave her her money back 7 weeks after the breakup, while she didn't expect this & possibly never would have known about me getting any chargeback if I hadn't done this!
I'm 25, good-looking, dress well, athletic, in great shape, healthy, fun to be with, succesful, good job, good credit, confident, interesting, intelligent, and much more. This is only the beginning, my perspectives are even better, it's too improve myself even more that I left. She knew this very well, I was the catch, she lost me.
This must be very hard for her, certainly since she's 27. She was more attracted to me at the end than she was in the beginning. She felt that I had changed, I wasn't the same guy she met 1 year before.
So now she tells my brother, and possibly everyone, that she dumped me, that she feels great without me, that I was the bad one. Heh, yeah right baby!
Mindtricks. An image you're sending to the world. I know you. I will not contact you. You failed.
It's a shame she wants to play it this way. Never will there be anything between us again, but if I would meet her, I would have no problems just saying hi, what's up, how's everything,...
But I know she wants to play it hard, even if she wants to know about me deeply inside.
Funny fact 1: when meeting my brother she was at the club with an ex-gf of me. Funny fact 2: a friend of mine saw her at a pub drinking a glass with another ex-gf of me.
Funny how these 2 ex-gf who you couldn't stand when you where with me, are now suddenly your best friends. Discussing your our ex-LTR with them right?
I felt guilty after the breakup. Guilty for leaving her while she did me nothing wrong. Guilt is dumb. Never underestimate women, this is a fine example.
She's poison, and she will want to take revenge. Revenge because she couldn't put me in the cage she wanted to: I left.
Do yourself a favour: don't date feminist/carreer-oriented/independent women
-peace.
My 1 year LTR is over since 10 weeks. She ended it after not getting what she wanted once again, then came back, I never gave her the chance to come back.
My reason for break-up: incompatibility, too many red flags, not the kind of women I want to settle for in the long term, too much self-improvement to do on myself before I can settle. LTR ended.
In those 10 weeks I contacted her 2 times:
1) Text message "Happy birthday, have fun this weekend" 3 weeks after the break-up
2) We had planned a trip together in july, I went alone. Originally, we thought getting nothing back from the ticket (she knew this at breakup). When I was at the airport the day of departure, they told me I would get 120$ back for her ticket. So I transfered this amount to her bankaccount 2 weeks ago with the message "tax chargeback from your trip".
In those 10 weeks She contacted me several times a week during the 3 first weeks. She wanted me back, felt bad, I was everything for her, bla bla. Didn't give her the chance to come back, my decision was final.
As a feminist, who was proud of telling me that she was the one that ended all the LTR's she had before me, she took this bad of course. Her wording is that she ended the LTRs, the thruth (I knew it when she told me & I know it know even better) is different.
So she phoned me several times during the first 3 weeks after the breakup & I ignore her. Then she stops contacting me. 1 week later it's her birthday: out of respect for somebody i've been involved with for 1 year, I sms her my congratulations. Of course I get no answer anymore, the roles are inverted she might think as I'm the one to contact her then.
But of course I do not, it is not trying to contact her it's a one shot congratulations for her birthday (I wouldn't have messaged her if it would have been 6 months later).
She doesn't hear about me anymore, untill I transfer the money to her bank account 2 weeks ago. Haven't received any thank you note for this either.
Did I expect to receive a thank you for both events?
No I knew I wouldn't any response. She's possible laughing with me that I'm so dumb to give her her money back.
Would I do it again, knowing her reaction?
Yes definitely, it's her money. Same thing for the birthday.
Now the story.
My brother just told me that he met her at a club 3 weeks ago. She talked to him of course.
Her story:
"Yes I'm doing really fine, I'm glad I ended the LTR, it was definitely the best decision I made, newbie81 is really an egoist, right now I have somebody else, no it's not official yet, were just sending sms"
So let's analyze: so wants me to hear through my brother that
-She's doing fine without me, she even has someone else
-She dumped me because i'm an egoist, she's glad that she took the decision.
This same "I dumped him" story, she'll tell to everybody, the same way she told it to me when I was with her.
Now why did I start this thread?
The moment my brother told me this, I thought: you fvckin' biatch!
I admit that technically, she is right: she ended the LTR. What she probably doesn't realize is that I was done with her several weeks earlier, I didn't cheat, I didn't have somebody else, I just didn't had the guts to end it.
When she ended it, I took my chance & left, never came back.
As always: women can make decisions without thinking about consequences. When she faced the consequences, she came back, but I didn't give her the chance to.
Now she's telling everybody that she dumped me. Hehe, I won't defend myself to anybody. If she wants to tell people this, if this makes her feel good: why not, tell it. Just one thing lady: There's no glory to end an LTR.
You can end an LTR for two reasons:
1) You do not match, so basically you have made a bad judgement in the beginning
2) Your partner did something bad, for which you couldn't stay anymore with him.
I admit that I made a bad judgement regarding her. When people tell me why it's over I answer "incompatibility in the long-term". When they ask me who ended it, I answer "does this matter?" When they insist, I answer "she ended it, came back, i didn't came back".
What about her?
-Did she made a bad judgement? No certainly not I was the catch, I wish the next guy good luck, it will be hard to be a good replacement for me, I have set the bar high to her.
-Did I do something wrong? From her wording: "I'm an egoist". Is this true? Yes, and that's why I left. She takes this as a reason for the breakup, but the thruth is she has no reason: I didn't do anything to her, I didn't cheat, I didn't steal, I didn't mistreat her, I didn't lie, in fact she dumped me & I didn't came back. I even gave her her money back 7 weeks after the breakup, while she didn't expect this & possibly never would have known about me getting any chargeback if I hadn't done this!
I'm 25, good-looking, dress well, athletic, in great shape, healthy, fun to be with, succesful, good job, good credit, confident, interesting, intelligent, and much more. This is only the beginning, my perspectives are even better, it's too improve myself even more that I left. She knew this very well, I was the catch, she lost me.
This must be very hard for her, certainly since she's 27. She was more attracted to me at the end than she was in the beginning. She felt that I had changed, I wasn't the same guy she met 1 year before.
So now she tells my brother, and possibly everyone, that she dumped me, that she feels great without me, that I was the bad one. Heh, yeah right baby!
Mindtricks. An image you're sending to the world. I know you. I will not contact you. You failed.
It's a shame she wants to play it this way. Never will there be anything between us again, but if I would meet her, I would have no problems just saying hi, what's up, how's everything,...
But I know she wants to play it hard, even if she wants to know about me deeply inside.
Funny fact 1: when meeting my brother she was at the club with an ex-gf of me. Funny fact 2: a friend of mine saw her at a pub drinking a glass with another ex-gf of me.
Funny how these 2 ex-gf who you couldn't stand when you where with me, are now suddenly your best friends. Discussing your our ex-LTR with them right?
I felt guilty after the breakup. Guilty for leaving her while she did me nothing wrong. Guilt is dumb. Never underestimate women, this is a fine example.
She's poison, and she will want to take revenge. Revenge because she couldn't put me in the cage she wanted to: I left.
Do yourself a favour: don't date feminist/carreer-oriented/independent women
-peace.
