some girls just make me nervous

[garruk]

im sure this happens to everyone but how do you guys keep up your self confidence witth a girl you really like?

i dont consider myself an AFC anymore even though im definately not a DJ yet either.

in any case, i hang out with girls alot, i go on alot of dates with 7s and a few 8s. Im totally cool and just not nervous at all with them.

however... i realize that the reason im so comfortable with these girls is because i dont really like them that much. aside from sex, theres nothing im interested in.

now when i do hang out with girls i like... i end up getting all nervous and sh!t. what can i do about this?

i feel like this is a forever-haunting problem. because even as i improve myself and eventually find myself hanging out with 9s comfortably...ill still be nervous around the 10s i really like (and the girls that i ultimately want to pursue LTRs with)

this is a terrible paradox that im sure you are all familiar with.

how do you deal?

 

[terran2k]

nervous? why are they better than you just because they have a pretty face?

 

[badboyjmm]

Well you seem to like this girls only because of their bodies. There's nothing wrong with that but you are looking for a relationship not a booty call.

First: You gotta realize that those 9 and 9.5 are human beings that eat, breath, take a dump just like the rest of us.

Second: You gotta stop waiting those chicks only for their bodies especially if you are looking for a relationship. You are putting way to much pressure on yourself and that's why you fail. You don't live the moment, you live in the future (I hope she will be my gf, what can I say to make her kiss me, love me etc)

3. You are the prize remember ? Act as if you were superior as if you the best man in the whole world, let the girl be nervous around you. Because in every interaction, there's someone playing, the other one is played. Somebody is talking, the other one listens.

So the girl agrees to have a date with you and see if you are qualified to put your rocker launcher in her black hole, and you are there, worrying about the fact that she might be your girlfriend... you will not have fun and you will not get the girl.

Don't make dating a job, dating is the process when you embrace your sexuality and you inner game in order to get the girl you want. That process by the way has to be fun.

P.S: Feel the fear, the nervousness and go for it anyway, you will then be in the heat of the moment and you will do just fine

 

[Huffman]

Always remember that any journey starts with the first step. If you make the first step, you're already in motion.

Have some kind of "trigger" that puts you in motion. A nice one is clapping your hands and screaming LETS DO THIS, but maybe something more subtle if you're with people

That is what has helped me quite often. If you feel like something's holding you back, just remember: you only need the first step (like saying hi+smile). The rest comes by itself. You can do one step, can you?