Some facts

[SayWhat]

Hi

I've been on this forum for over two years, mostly seeking advice (which I found).

In the beginning I read stuff like "you don't need a girlfriend" which of course I couldn't believe as I believed the opposite.

Let me tell you this: you really don't need a girlfriend. Happiness truly starts with yourself. Sex doesn't change a thing about yourself either. At the moment I still have issues with myself. I still feel exactly the same as before. I thought sex would boost my confidence and make me the man I've always wanted to be. This is NOT the case (perhaps for virgins this might be the case, but I can't relate to that).

Another fact which crosses this forum regularly is looks, I've posted numerous posts about it myself because I thought I was ugly and that that was the reason I couldn't find a new girl. I've recently gotten a job as a waiter, thus I come into contact with a lot of new people every week.

Now this is not too brag, but just to make a case clear: I'm being called good looking by girls at least twice a week now, thus I can assume I'm not that bad looking. Guys think I'm with another girl every week and am the typical player. Now let's just believe this has always been the case and I have been good looking for over a couple of years. You could think I would not have an issue with getting new girls? WRONG, looks really don't matter. I didn't had a girlfriend for over 5 years simply because I'm a quiet person. Looks will only get you a leap in the initial conversation, but from then on it really is about your confidence and body language. Something on which I still have to work.

For new members and some older, how hard it is too believe (I didn't either in the beginning). Sex and looks really don't matter. Yes sex feels good, but it doesn't change you and in the end it's all about yourself and your inner game.

I hope I can give something back with this post.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Agreed with the sentiments OP, but a few comments.

You really don't need a girlfriend. Happiness truly starts with yourself. Sex doesn't change a thing about yourself either.

These are true. But they are still nice-to-haves. It's a bit like saying, 'Man/woman can survive on a diet of rice, boiled chicken, vegetables and water'. Again, perfectly true, but it doesn't half make life dull; I've tried it as a cleansing exercise - in the end, you just end up hankering for Chinese take-away.

Just like a take-out meal, a good relationship with great relations enriches one's existence. One can easily (happily) exist without life's enrichments, but equally, one can live happily, possibly an even happier existence by embracing certain luxuries as well.

Problem arise when one seeks happiness solely through the luxury of a relationship, sex, Chinese food, without first being content anyway. This deluded and fragile form of superficial contentment is observed everywhere in the blue-pill world.

Inner game first; enrichment second.

WRONG, looks really don't matter. I didn't had a girlfriend for over 5 years simply because I'm a quiet person. Looks will only get you a leap in the initial conversation, but from then on it really is about your confidence and body language.

This is correct. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; cliché, but cliché for a reason.

 

[latinnova]

Looks does get your foot in the door, but it easily attracts the girl to you day after day. Looks do help in the long run also, not just short term. I have pissed girls the hell off to where they had wanted nothing to do with me, then as I walk away cause I don't give a sh!t, they will come to me and compliment me on how fine I am and can't let me go. Not bragging, just the truth. It will help keep the women interested, has more holding power then one thinks. Plus you build value when they show all their friends your pictures and the friends approve the hell out of you, it's an incentive to keep you.

 

[GS750]

Looks does get your foot in the door, but it easily attracts the girl to you day after day. Looks do help in the long run also, not just short term. I have pissed girls the hell off to where they had wanted nothing to do with me, then as I walk away cause I don't give a sh!t, they will come to me and compliment me on how fine I am and can't let me go. Not bragging, just the truth. It will help keep the women interested, has more holding power then one thinks. Plus you build value when they show all their friends your pictures and the friends approve the hell out of you, it's an incentive to keep you.

True. Anyone who says looks don't matter is fooling themselves. It absolutely does matter.