"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Social proof seems to be the most important thing in college/high school

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The other day I went to this party and people I hadn't met heard my name and said "Hey I've heard about you! Everyone says you're like 'the most interesting man in the world' from those commercials!" I didn't have to do **** but have a few shots and introduce myself and I had all kinds of people wanting to say hi. Then at other parties people have come up to me and said things like "I heard you're a good artist" or "are you the guy who <insert some story here>" or other things like that. And you know what? I haven't had to do much but say "oh, well enough about that, tell me about yourself" and I'm golden.

Because high school and college are huge crisscrossing social webs, I don't think there's anything more important than social proof. Knowing which people to ask an opinion on an art project, which people to tell stories to, etc... makes all the difference because if you reveal the right things about yourself to the right people, everybody will hear about you. Then all you have to do is show up at the party and not be a try-hard.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The other day I went to this party and people I hadn't met heard my name and said "Hey I've heard about you! Everyone says you're like 'the most interesting man in the world' from those commercials!" I didn't have to do **** but have a few shots and introduce myself and I had all kinds of people wanting to say hi. Then at other parties people have come up to me and said things like "I heard you're a good artist" or "are you the guy who <insert some story here>" or other things like that. And you know what? I haven't had to do much but say "oh, well enough about that, tell me about yourself" and I'm golden.

Because high school and college are huge crisscrossing social webs, I don't think there's anything more important than social proof. Knowing which people to ask an opinion on an art project, which people to tell stories to, etc... makes all the difference because if you reveal the right things about yourself to the right people, everybody will hear about you. Then all you have to do is show up at the party and not be a try-hard.
That's very true. I seem to think that being well known throughout the campus helps ALOT for my game.

It at least gets you in the door.

- comic_relief
 

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I've lost a few women to artist types, that's why I hate them :)
 
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