so you have the girl, but...

[Aazman]

All the physical aaction is eassyy. However when your in a relationship and spinning plates.

Is it acceptable to ease out and actually talk to them?

I mean the DJ bible and the forum to some degree denounces the chit chat of women- which is fair enough. But if she blabbers gossip- i just don't respond to it and just listen.

However talking about interesting things (e.g. opinions, life stories)etc- is that something that can play out to be a weakness to your game? Particularly if your trying to get a LTR out of it?

Also this is my first time spinning plates, felt a bit guilty but then i thote i should care about myself not about her.

Aaz

 

[Scars]

I'm not exactly sure what you are asking.

If you want to continue building rapport with this girl then you do need to talk to her. If she is being boring, then let her know. There is plenty to talk about. There's nothing wrong with sharing personal stories either. That's how you get to know each other too. It's nice to have a level of mystery, but I think people focus on that philosophy way too much. At the same time, you also have to be a human being. And if you don't share any stories or let her do all the initiating/talking she is going to think you're uninterested and start tree branching.

There's nothing wrong with spinning plates. You're single. Stick with this mindset. Don't even think too much about it. "Oh, I'm going out with girl #3 tonight. I'm just going to go out and have fun." Have a good time, and show her a little attention. Talk to her like a human being. Share stories. Yada yada. Then the next day you do the same thing. There's nothing selfish about it.

 

[Aazman]

thanks man, and apologies if that was ambiguous but you hit the nail on the head