"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So What Time Should I Call This Morning?

Dante420

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So I met this girl at the mall. She's at least a 9 to 9.5. Seems to have a nice personality to, and when you been with what I been with you learn to appreciate that. That makes her a ten in my book but whatever. She was staring at me in the mall a few times and I looked over. Then I walked out of the store and sat on a bench. She walks out of the stare, we make eye contact again and she waves to me. I smile at her. She walks a little bit turns around and waves again. Then I make my approach start talking to her and her friend. Interestingly one of her friends knew me from a summer job I had. She even remembered my name.

So anyway, I got this girls number. I called her last night. She seemed cool but I was busy and I had to go so I told her I'd call her the next morning. Well that morning has come, what time should I call her? 10:30 am, 11 am, or 12?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PRMoon

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Don't dwell on small details like what hour to call someone. After you've got your day started, your typical morning routine done, ring her up. Don't over prioritize women in general. If you treat them like a typical part of your life, like driving to work, or eating dinner, you'll find all of this girl stuff alot easier.
 

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Alright that's great and makes things easier. I hate playing those stupid phones games were you can't call them the first day or the next day because of some stupid reason.
 

Dante420

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Yeah I think this got blown. She showed no interest after the second day. She told me to text her and she usually barely responds and like won't answer any questions. Too bad to because I thought this girl was pretty hot, especially her eyes. Oh well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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