This is a story that's been going on since almost a year.
I'm in a student in a foreign country. When I first came here I didn't know their language and this chick, she almost didn't speak English at all(she could a bit but it was terrible). However, she was flirting with me by touching etc. I asked her out, she stood me up. So I ignored her. Then she came back stronger. I asked her out again and she flaked. The next day I went out with another girl, she saw the photos on facebook and she texted me "I am sorry". And during all these time she was hot and cold from time to time.
During these asking out things, I have acted weak and desperate. Out of the game.
After, when I had an accident here, she sent me messages like "I'm thinking of you. Are you okay?". The next day she offered me to go shopping for me which I responded "let's go together then" and of course she didn't go along. Despite of the messages of hers, she didn't help me.
By the way still, I wasn't speaking their language. Notice that we've been in the same environment a few times, shared drinks etc. but didn't really speak.
Next, I went back to my country for a month. While I was there, she asked me if I'm not returning and she said "it would give me pleasure to see you".I didn't reply to that.
After a month when I was returning, she put likes on my posts about returning to her country. Just as I arrived, she started trying to take my attention which I didn't give her. I went on like this for about 2 weeks.
We made a test with a close girl friend of mine. She doesn't know her. We went out when she was there and sat on the bench, in the garden and I asked my friend to be flirty with me and watch her meanwhile. My friend told me that she was looking at us like her through the corner of her eye, so much that it bothered my friend.
And after one day, I sat next to her in the garden. We spoke about a minute in her language (I learned). She asked me if I will be coming to the school's event in a bar tonight. I said maybe. She told me to send her a message. I said okay. Then I said a very stupid sentence in her language (i thought it was funny). She suddenly went very cold and didn't speak to me. 1 hour later, thinking that I insulted her, I apologized by text (I was away). She said no problem. I texted "what time tonight?". She responded with time (this is not an exclusive meeting; everyone's there).
That night I learned that before the school's event, there was a party in her home and she didn't invite me, didn't even mention.
So I was inside in the bar at night. I'm sure that she saw me but she just ignored (she was also drunk a bit). Then she went out. I was with a girl friend of mind. We went out, we were just in front of her. My friend told me that she was looking at me. Just as I grabbed my friends arm, she came and grabbed me by the waist. She asked me for a lighter and she told me that she will do something with me tomorrow which involves a cigarette (i didn't understand, I'm new to the language). We talked for a while. It was touch and flirty. She was getting more and more drunk. But I couldn't really talk to her. First of all I froze from time to time and second I didn't understand what she said because of the language and since she was drunk, she wasnt able to speak slowly. She got more drunk and she ****ed off with her friends.
The next day when I went to the class, she was alone. The tone of her voice and how she looks at me showed high interest. However right at that moment i thought that I don't want a girl who drinks like that and looses herself. I suddenly got cold and didn't speak to her. She was watching me as I was making a phone call.
The following days i ignored her. At school, we work at the same class. Notice that she is still not mentioning two of us doing something together at all. I stopped ignoring her and started being friendly then. So she started doing something weird. We have single tables which are big enough for two people. There are other places that she can sit. But she started using my table. I tried changing the table, and she came there also. When I went for a cigarette and came back, I would find her sitting by my table and asking me how I am with a smile. I responded coldly. In the end I felt annoyed because she was looking interested but wasn't asking me out so I started working on the other side of the room.
After seeing that, the next day she didn't even look at me. We were cold for a while. But after two weeks, she started again saying hello to me with a smile everyday. I said hello coldly 2 or 3 times. The third one was a bit blunt and maybe even rude. She stopped contact.
I went to an exhibition with a girl, she was there. While there were many places that she could pass from, she passed right between me and the girl. Didn't look at me and said hello to the girl. We continued with no contact.
2 weeks ago I saw something about her on the internet. It was a really sad thing and I felt sad for her, really. And what she created about it was really good. So I sent a message to her and said that it's good. And I also said "I am sorry that this happened to you". I said this without expecting anything from her, it was from the heart. She did not reply.
However, she's back to smiling and saying hello; even when I don't look at her and pass by; she turns and says hello and smiles. At school again sits next to me.
What the hell is going on here? Am I bull****ting myself?
I'm in a student in a foreign country. When I first came here I didn't know their language and this chick, she almost didn't speak English at all(she could a bit but it was terrible). However, she was flirting with me by touching etc. I asked her out, she stood me up. So I ignored her. Then she came back stronger. I asked her out again and she flaked. The next day I went out with another girl, she saw the photos on facebook and she texted me "I am sorry". And during all these time she was hot and cold from time to time.
During these asking out things, I have acted weak and desperate. Out of the game.
After, when I had an accident here, she sent me messages like "I'm thinking of you. Are you okay?". The next day she offered me to go shopping for me which I responded "let's go together then" and of course she didn't go along. Despite of the messages of hers, she didn't help me.
By the way still, I wasn't speaking their language. Notice that we've been in the same environment a few times, shared drinks etc. but didn't really speak.
Next, I went back to my country for a month. While I was there, she asked me if I'm not returning and she said "it would give me pleasure to see you".I didn't reply to that.
After a month when I was returning, she put likes on my posts about returning to her country. Just as I arrived, she started trying to take my attention which I didn't give her. I went on like this for about 2 weeks.
We made a test with a close girl friend of mine. She doesn't know her. We went out when she was there and sat on the bench, in the garden and I asked my friend to be flirty with me and watch her meanwhile. My friend told me that she was looking at us like her through the corner of her eye, so much that it bothered my friend.
And after one day, I sat next to her in the garden. We spoke about a minute in her language (I learned). She asked me if I will be coming to the school's event in a bar tonight. I said maybe. She told me to send her a message. I said okay. Then I said a very stupid sentence in her language (i thought it was funny). She suddenly went very cold and didn't speak to me. 1 hour later, thinking that I insulted her, I apologized by text (I was away). She said no problem. I texted "what time tonight?". She responded with time (this is not an exclusive meeting; everyone's there).
That night I learned that before the school's event, there was a party in her home and she didn't invite me, didn't even mention.
So I was inside in the bar at night. I'm sure that she saw me but she just ignored (she was also drunk a bit). Then she went out. I was with a girl friend of mind. We went out, we were just in front of her. My friend told me that she was looking at me. Just as I grabbed my friends arm, she came and grabbed me by the waist. She asked me for a lighter and she told me that she will do something with me tomorrow which involves a cigarette (i didn't understand, I'm new to the language). We talked for a while. It was touch and flirty. She was getting more and more drunk. But I couldn't really talk to her. First of all I froze from time to time and second I didn't understand what she said because of the language and since she was drunk, she wasnt able to speak slowly. She got more drunk and she ****ed off with her friends.
The next day when I went to the class, she was alone. The tone of her voice and how she looks at me showed high interest. However right at that moment i thought that I don't want a girl who drinks like that and looses herself. I suddenly got cold and didn't speak to her. She was watching me as I was making a phone call.
The following days i ignored her. At school, we work at the same class. Notice that she is still not mentioning two of us doing something together at all. I stopped ignoring her and started being friendly then. So she started doing something weird. We have single tables which are big enough for two people. There are other places that she can sit. But she started using my table. I tried changing the table, and she came there also. When I went for a cigarette and came back, I would find her sitting by my table and asking me how I am with a smile. I responded coldly. In the end I felt annoyed because she was looking interested but wasn't asking me out so I started working on the other side of the room.
After seeing that, the next day she didn't even look at me. We were cold for a while. But after two weeks, she started again saying hello to me with a smile everyday. I said hello coldly 2 or 3 times. The third one was a bit blunt and maybe even rude. She stopped contact.
I went to an exhibition with a girl, she was there. While there were many places that she could pass from, she passed right between me and the girl. Didn't look at me and said hello to the girl. We continued with no contact.
2 weeks ago I saw something about her on the internet. It was a really sad thing and I felt sad for her, really. And what she created about it was really good. So I sent a message to her and said that it's good. And I also said "I am sorry that this happened to you". I said this without expecting anything from her, it was from the heart. She did not reply.
However, she's back to smiling and saying hello; even when I don't look at her and pass by; she turns and says hello and smiles. At school again sits next to me.
What the hell is going on here? Am I bull****ting myself?
