So this was my day

[zekko]

Overall, I can't see a single positive element (especially for men +30) to have Facebook; other than what Desdi is saying. But I think in Desdi's position, FB is not critical to have; if there's already a brigade of women waiting for him to be single.

As I said, I don't have Facebook, so I don't really know. But it seems to me that the arguments against it are largely theoretical, whereas Desdinova laid out a concrete example of how it benefited him (girls seeing his single status and hitting him up).

Though you're correct, I'm sure a superstud like Des doesn't need it. How often do most guys get date offers? Maybe since it's electronic communication, it creates an impersonal buffer, where a girl might not be so hesitant to take a chance at getting rejected.

Now if you have something to hide, I guess you wouldn't want it.

The "mystery" angle is one that I've never cared about. I'm sure it probably helps out if you're looking for one night stands, fvck buddies, or the like. But generally speaking, I prefer a woman to be attracted to me for who I am, not for what she imagines me to be. At some point, she's going to get to know you anyway, if she's going to stick around. So I don't see "mystery" as being a solid attraction factor. It's attraction built on sand.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Let your gears calm down my brotha -- people can be hard to deal with, mothers especially, I am sure she means well (she may never really understand where you are coming from--but recognize she probably does mean well).

Sometimes it can feel like all people are against us. Be the eye in the storm!