Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So things are alright, except for my feelings..

LikRetsam

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Originally posted by sandmandr
go direct on her. dont try and hide your intentions on her. she'll freak out if you start acting all AFCBoyfriendy.

i love the direct/natural style. you see her, tell her she looks beautiful..start a convo, do some kino, escalate, kiss/f close her...worst comes to worse, you get her number.
And I suppose coming on to her with 100% interest WONT freak her out after 3 years?

Originally posted by sandmandr
pretend the past never happened.
Priceless. Honestly. Maybe he should walk up to her and ask if she wants to touch his pee pee?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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thank you for all the interesting series of posts after such. I spent a pretty awesome night with her. We watched a movie together, side by side (no cuddle or anything), had her family (and me) sit around a fire and talk about lots of things and then got into a pillow fight with her, and then realized that I could pick her up easily ^^.

It went exactly as I thought it would and it was a great night! I am collecting all your ideas for future influence, but for now, it's one of the best nights I've had in a long time, and with my car coming soon, I hope to have many more, of which to hope something will happen ^^.

Thank you all,
Docs.
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Thanks for restating the OP's problem.



Thanks for restating the OP's problem.



Where did you get this little gem?



Is this a quick line you toss in at the end to make it look like you're saying something important?

Well for one, I wasn't restating his problem randomly, I was thinking it through, restating the facts.

Some people have no desire to hook up with girls that have placed them in the friends zone, and actually want a LTR. He actually values the friendship also, and doesn't want to lose it.

You saw his weird FR. He enjoys time with her, and they don't even have to hook up for him to enjoy that time.

You just haven't met this kind of chick.

Sorry that it is so hard for you to understand.

And I didn't just say that last line to give my post credibility. I wouldn't say something if I weren't serious about it. I don't just repeat **** out of the bible. I know this from personal experience.
 

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"FR" is short for Field Report. Docs, my humble advise would be to take things slow if you're really serious about starting a relationship with this girl. Trying to "pick her up" using "techniques" that you might find in the Bible is not necessarily a good idea, because you've been in the friend situation for so long. You'll need to slowly introduce the element of sexuality between the two of you by developing an intimacy with her. Next time you are in a situation like the one you were in, try getting a little closer to her and touching her a little more. Your goal is to show her your intentions, yet make a smooth and clear transition. Do not, however, try to change your personality or come on too hard too quickly, as it could scare or confuse her.

P.S. 08, I'd quit talking out of my ass if I were you; you're arguing with someone who loves to flame.;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm not following the bible exactly as it is, lol, i'm doing my own little way of things.

I'm doing the 'take it slow' approach, that's not hard to figure out really.

P.S. Flaming is lots of fun ^^
 
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