so she says she is confused...

[jdjd]

long story short...no doubt she knows i have interest in her but i did not throw myself at her....

i did not tell her i like her yet like "officially"....

she does tell me a lot of things...esp there was some drama between this new girl that likes her ex....and buncha other mumbo jumbo...im sure u guys get the idea right?

i hung out w/ her and her friends once last week and her friends liked me and i got along w/ them well....she was happy about it too...

asked her about a dinner date but im quite a busy person myself and wasnt able to set a solid time /date for her...and she kept telling me whenever im free....

she mentioned that she wanted to go out more....like scenery outtings....but mentioned she didnt want to be the driver....because when her and her friends go out...she is always the driver...

hate to say it but i like her and not lookin for a quicky.....

sometimes im just not sure what to do....and i dont want to rush things this time....as i did in the past and things didnt turn out so well...

advice?

 

[Visions007]

Why don't you just take her out... see what happens. Not everything has to be meticulously planned like some people think. She obviously s interested in going out with you so pursue it.... waiting too long seems a much greater mistake to me than going in early.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Don't push a relationship. Just be cool and have fun with her. You will know if she likes you or not. Keep your options open as well and meet other girls in the proccess.

 

[jdjd]

something interesting happened tonight...i was studyin at a coffee shop and i was online...she messaged me...asked me if i had a blackberry pearl manual...i was like yeah....and if she could have it....i was but i'd have to go home and try to find it first to be sure...

so i go home and find it...and i really did find it....told her...

online we had this dialogue...

mekay i have the box and everything in it
her:YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
her: i love you xxxx!!!!!!!!!!!
her:when can i come get it?!?!?!?!
her: hahaahahahaah
me: hmm
me whenever u want
her: now?^^
me: u need it that soon?
her:well i need to mail it asap....since the buyer paid for it already
meh ok
me:sure

then she came over quite fast...and i said since i help u w/ something how about u help me w/ something? i told her i got a friends b-day coming up and need to do some shopping....i asked her to come w/ me....but AGAIN i only have thursday free this week....and she is busy too.....its so hard to find time these days! i guess ill just have to wait?

 

[DonGorgon]

Confused = Fing another dude who treats her bad and she loves it.

The 20% of her brain that is logical tells her to leave him and date you and others but her female emotional mind wich is 80% of her brain tells her to keep Fing that guy...

 

[Cashew]

You sound like her girlfriend. You should not be so quick to jump at everything she wants. She realizes this and will likely use you for it, even if she doesn't think of it that way. that and your bending to her desires does not propel you into her arms in any romantic sort of setting.

 

[jdjd]

so i should just stop talkin to her for awhile then?

 

[Igetit!]

I'm tempted to agree with DonGordon,but first,what I'd like to know is what does she mean by being "confused"? You said that she said she was
confused,right? Well,what question did you ask her or what did you say to her
to make her say that to you?

 

[jdjd]

I'm tempted to agree with DonGordon,but first,what I'd like to know is what does she mean by being "confused"? You said that she said she was
confused,right? Well,what question did you ask her or what did you say to her
to make her say that to you?

i'd say its been maybe a year or so since she has finally broken up with her bf...they dated for about say 3 years or so?

however, my sources tells me that they were always off and on a lot....

one of her friends, which is my good friend tells me cuz no one else really chased after her in those times....she simply just gave in and went back to him....

i know she is a difficult one...thought i'd give it a try....jus to see how far i can get...u guys know what i mean?

simply, one day she approached me w/ the matter sayin there is this crazy chick stalking her about her ex bf .....sayin that they cheated or some ****....i really have no idea...and i choose to stay out of it....and i jsut asked her r u back w/ him or something? then she goes "i duno what we are..." i just left it as it is...didnt ask anymore...then she goes while im tryin to figure this out....this crazy stalkin chick isnt helping....so i was like heh?

 

[Alle_Gory]

[ Insert Drama ]

What was the last fun thing you did together?

 

[Igetit!]

You like this girl,right? Well,if you have been pursuing her for....I don't know,two,three or four months,and she has been "confused" this whole time,then FORGET IT. Your just wasting your time waiting on her to finally say to you,"Ok,I'm ready. We can go out now". I believe her. I do believe she is confused. She's confused because in her heart she still has feelings and a desire for her old boyfriend,and at the same time,she has a new opportunity to date you,a new guy who she already knows who likes her.
If she goes ahead and starts dating you,she'll be in a relationship with you,but what happens if the guy who she ALREADY has attraction for and a connection with suddenly changes his mind and wants her back again?
She'll want to get back together with him,but she'll already be in a relationship with you. I can see that.

Ok,now let's say that she decided to turn you down and pursue her ex. If she closes the door on dating you,goes after her ex,then he says no,then she'll have no one,because she turned you down,then was rejected by her ex. Can you see why she's confused now? But you know what? That's her problem. I can't speak for you,but if I were you,I wouldn't let HER problem effect MY dating life. I'd simply move on. I don't see why I would have to be single/alone because she can't make up her mind about what she wants to do.

But hey,it's your life. If you want to waste a few months sitting around waiting on her to "pick" you,be my guest.

 

[jdjd]

What was the last fun thing you did together?

had dinner with her and her friends last week monday....

saw her last night, she came to my house to pick up that manual she had to mail it....and asked her out again....she did mentioned a few times when shes free but im in school and work at those times...then she goes...cant say i didnt try...

then i said to her ur pretty hard to ask out huh? she smiles and goes yup....then i just said when i think of something ill call you...and then i just said bye and i walked back upstairs...


drama:
Girl: A = one i like
Girl B = crazy stalker
ex bf = well ya ex bf

so girl B likes her ex bf....and was startin to stalk her by myspace and facebook messages....and i think in school or spreading rumors about her thru the circle of friends. While Girl B and her ex bf was dating, girl B claims that girl A was still seeing him...while they were dating....who is lying? who is telling the truth? to be honest? i dont give a fly....i mean i rather stay out of this....right?

what i mean is that they are still friends and talk and see each other once in a while...and i guess girl B got sensitive and insecure?

what do u think?

 

[Aragon034]

what do u think?

"oh god, oh god, we're all going to die?"


drama like this is fun to watch, but hell to be in.

is ehe your only prospect? Are you exclusive with this chick? If not, then start going out and tell her you don't want to waste your time with this drama.

If yes... well... I refer to my above response.

 

[DonJuan11]

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i did not tell her i like her yet like "officially"....

she does tell me a lot of things...esp there was some drama between this new girl that likes her ex....and buncha other mumbo jumbo...im sure u guys get the idea right?

Drama between her and a new girl that likes her ex? Not a good quality to have for a LTR

i hung out w/ her and her friends once last week and her friends liked me and i got along w/ them well....she was happy about it too...

Mistake. Why are you hanging out with her friends? If you like her, you should be 1-on-1 for at least 2 months. Then she can introduce you to her friends. If you are with her while she's with her friends, there are way too many distractions: i.e., 6'1 hockey players, musicians, actors, models, her girlfriends, the cute waiter. She won't be able to focus on you.

asked her about a dinner date but im quite a busy person myself and wasnt able to set a solid time /date for her...and she kept telling me whenever im free....

You have to solidfy the time and date. She won't be free forever. What if another 6'1 guy came and said "dinner and dancing Saturday 7:00 pm, I'm picking you up, be ready." Do you think she would say "I can't, jdjd asked me 1 week ago and I don't know if Saturday will be the day where he is finally free"?

she mentioned that she wanted to go out more....like scenery outtings....but mentioned she didnt want to be the driver....because when her and her friends go out...she is always the driver...

I don't understand the above statement

hate to say it but i like her and not lookin for a quicky.....

sometimes im just not sure what to do....and i dont want to rush things this time....as i did in the past and things didnt turn out so well...

advice?

No friends, no distractions, be fun, and be confident. Soildify the times you are going to take her out. Make sure she has fun with you. Step up the physical and be sincere.

 

[Metaphysical]

you should never explicitly tell her you "LIKE" her. instead just show it.

if you kiss her, hold her a lot or embrace her.. or cuddle up with her a lot after sex, then she will know you like her, without you needing to be all sappy and girly.

 

[oakraiderz2]

hate to say it but i like her and not lookin for a quicky.....

sometimes im just not sure what to do....and i dont want to rush things this time....as i did in the past and things didnt turn out so well...

advice?

Take the schlong outta your vag and go on a date with her or something...it is logical to do so seeing as how you like her. Make a move even, doesnt mean you two are together.