So she asks this guy "what if I didn't exist (I'm her bf)"
Ok, so I'm in a really good relationship and I know more or less how women work, how to create attraction, how to react at certain situations. I've studied and practiced the subject for years now. And many thanks to David DeAngelo.
So I find this great christian girl, we're in a really good loving relationship, we're honest and loyal and love eachother which is rare now a days. A couple of times she's done things I havn't accepted and told her so, and I've had full rights to do so too, like once when I told her to call when she was coming to this place, and there she shows up without calling. Things like these are unacepptable, as she did remember it.
I'm not a nazi though, do care alot for her and want her a to have great life.
Anyway, so there's this very charming guy in her school. And she told me sometimes he almost crosses the line with what he says, as she's got me. And on her birthday party he gives her a red rose and then when he's about to leave and she tells him not to, he goes like "look to your right" where I'm sitting. So I tell her that what he did kinda hinted he might be after her. But not in a jelous way, I've stopped doing the whole jelousy thingy, I think that if a woman tries to make me jelous by hinting there's some other guy, then I'll let her go for it - I don't need a girl that that.
So, this week she sends me and sms saying he's spoken to him. So I think now he has confessed his love to her or something, so she wants to talk about it, which is understandable. So I reply and ask if my guess was correct. She doesn't reply.
So the day after we talk, and it turns out the situation wasn't at all lik this. Remember, she wants to tell me this, as if there's nothing wrong with it. So she tells me that they were talking and she asks him "What if (me) didn't exist? Would you feel something else for me and maybe have done someting about it?" and then she goes on how he knows how much she loves me and how much respect he has for me and blah blah blah. So I tell her I don't care and that I don't get why she even talked about it in the first place, that never ever have I felt any jelousy that what she did, she did because she wanted to do it. And that I needed time to think about it.
So an hour later she calls to apologize, and by now I had thought alot about it. So I tell her that I'm not sure if I can accept her apology that I need more time to think. And I tell her that what she had done was talking to a guy who might have felt some attraction for her that how would it be if I didn't exist. And that this is unaccpetable and that I don't understand how she could do this to me. And she gets very sad, and I try to get her to understand how wrong this is of her and how I do not accept it. And she tells me it wasn't at all like this. So I tell her that we'll have to talk (I'm an hour a part from her and I'll see her tomorrowI)and then I say goodbye and hang up.
So two hours later she sms me: "THERE IS NOBODY BUT YOU WHO I WANT..!!!"
I don't reply ofcourse.
Now...what should I do?!
I would love to continue this relationship because we are really good with eachother, exceptionally good, we understand eachother like nobody else do and laugh and have fun like 98% of the time we're together, and sex works well between us too. And it has worked this well for 5months
But then there's priniciples that just needs to be followed. I see this as a first step to cheating on me, it's strange, because she really is this christian girl that never wants to do anything wrong or do anyone harm, but I guess what happened was more her feminine nature? Anyway, I'm kinda thinking that maybe the best thing to do would be to end this? Because I do need to be a man, and have prinicples and not accept certain kind of behaviour. A relationship needs equal love and respect from both sides. This is not the case now.
But ofcourse as I stated I do want this to continue. Maybe just tell her that I do not accept this and make her understand it?
I'm gonna confront her if she has feelings for this guy. I'm thinking that if she says yes I'll tell her that I'll make it easy for her and go.
I kinda want to be the greater man and not accept this and end the relationship, although I'm really thinking that by thinking like this I might actualy save it.
Comments and suggestions please!
Ok, so I'm in a really good relationship and I know more or less how women work, how to create attraction, how to react at certain situations. I've studied and practiced the subject for years now. And many thanks to David DeAngelo.
So I find this great christian girl, we're in a really good loving relationship, we're honest and loyal and love eachother which is rare now a days. A couple of times she's done things I havn't accepted and told her so, and I've had full rights to do so too, like once when I told her to call when she was coming to this place, and there she shows up without calling. Things like these are unacepptable, as she did remember it.
I'm not a nazi though, do care alot for her and want her a to have great life.
Anyway, so there's this very charming guy in her school. And she told me sometimes he almost crosses the line with what he says, as she's got me. And on her birthday party he gives her a red rose and then when he's about to leave and she tells him not to, he goes like "look to your right" where I'm sitting. So I tell her that what he did kinda hinted he might be after her. But not in a jelous way, I've stopped doing the whole jelousy thingy, I think that if a woman tries to make me jelous by hinting there's some other guy, then I'll let her go for it - I don't need a girl that that.
So, this week she sends me and sms saying he's spoken to him. So I think now he has confessed his love to her or something, so she wants to talk about it, which is understandable. So I reply and ask if my guess was correct. She doesn't reply.
So the day after we talk, and it turns out the situation wasn't at all lik this. Remember, she wants to tell me this, as if there's nothing wrong with it. So she tells me that they were talking and she asks him "What if (me) didn't exist? Would you feel something else for me and maybe have done someting about it?" and then she goes on how he knows how much she loves me and how much respect he has for me and blah blah blah. So I tell her I don't care and that I don't get why she even talked about it in the first place, that never ever have I felt any jelousy that what she did, she did because she wanted to do it. And that I needed time to think about it.
So an hour later she calls to apologize, and by now I had thought alot about it. So I tell her that I'm not sure if I can accept her apology that I need more time to think. And I tell her that what she had done was talking to a guy who might have felt some attraction for her that how would it be if I didn't exist. And that this is unaccpetable and that I don't understand how she could do this to me. And she gets very sad, and I try to get her to understand how wrong this is of her and how I do not accept it. And she tells me it wasn't at all like this. So I tell her that we'll have to talk (I'm an hour a part from her and I'll see her tomorrowI)and then I say goodbye and hang up.
So two hours later she sms me: "THERE IS NOBODY BUT YOU WHO I WANT..!!!"
I don't reply ofcourse.
Now...what should I do?!
I would love to continue this relationship because we are really good with eachother, exceptionally good, we understand eachother like nobody else do and laugh and have fun like 98% of the time we're together, and sex works well between us too. And it has worked this well for 5months
But then there's priniciples that just needs to be followed. I see this as a first step to cheating on me, it's strange, because she really is this christian girl that never wants to do anything wrong or do anyone harm, but I guess what happened was more her feminine nature? Anyway, I'm kinda thinking that maybe the best thing to do would be to end this? Because I do need to be a man, and have prinicples and not accept certain kind of behaviour. A relationship needs equal love and respect from both sides. This is not the case now.
But ofcourse as I stated I do want this to continue. Maybe just tell her that I do not accept this and make her understand it?
I'm gonna confront her if she has feelings for this guy. I'm thinking that if she says yes I'll tell her that I'll make it easy for her and go.
I kinda want to be the greater man and not accept this and end the relationship, although I'm really thinking that by thinking like this I might actualy save it.
Comments and suggestions please!
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