So I got the girl's # last night...

[DJx420]

Hey boys, I'll try to make this short and sweet but definitely let me know what you think.

So I work part-time at a restaurant to earn a little extra $. They also have a bar that is open late on Fridays/Saturdays and yesterday I was scheduled to work the door. So the night was going pretty well, nothing crazy going on, and then I see this AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL girl and we made eye contact. Another hour or so goes by and once again we strike eye-contact, only to have her give me a little "eye-brow lift." So I did the only thing I could at that moment, reciprocate the lift!

Yet another 30 minutes or so go by and she comes over to me and we start talking. She told me she needs a job and wants to know if my resutarant was hiring, so I told her to wait right there and I'd find out. My manager said that that have ZERO intentions of hiring anyone else, but I saw this as a prime opportunity to score this girls #. I told her that my manager said they weren't hiring but that could in fact be changing in a week or 2 and if she wanted to leave me her #, I would give her a call when things changed. She agreed and BOOM, got the digits.

Now heres my problem. As sad as this sounds, I can't remember a time before last night where I've scored a girl's # that I COMPLETELY DO NOT KNOW. Now I'm not sure if shes under the assumption that I just got her # for me and used that BS above as an excuse, or actually thinks I got the # to call her when a job opens up...

Soooo my question to you guys is pretty much this: How should I go about calling and/or texting her / How should I break the news to her that I totally didn't want her # for the restaurant?

Thanks in advance guys!

 

[prairiedog24]

I would just say it. And I'd do it the first time you called. Direct approach is usually best. =)

 

[Stéphane]

WTF the girl asked for a job and she gave you her number for that reason, not so that you could use her number for personal reasons.

 

[SexPDX]

How was your interaction with her up until the point where she asked if the restaurant was hiring? You said you two "started talking", but didn't say anything to indicate how it went.

Anyway, if interaction went well then I'd definitely say that you are in much weaker position now than if you had presented the idea of the two of you spending time together as the basis for having her number. Remember, the number is not the goal. The goal is for her to WANT you to have it.

Where to go from here? I think all you can do at this point is come clean right away and try to move past it quickly. And it may not matter. Based on your description of the looks and whatnot there's a chance she's attracted to you already.

Hell, maybe she isn't even interested in working there and just wanted an excuse to talk to you.

 

[Stéphane]

I agree with SexPDX you have to come clean RIGHT away if you remotely want a chance with this girl. When I got my girlfriend number I told her that we should practice our salsa moves sometime, and asked for her number.

I called her the same night and said hey look when I said I wanted to practice salsa moves, I lied, I actually wanted to go for coffee with you.

I find your situation problematic because you asked for her number at your JOB and she gave it to you for a JOB. Don't **** where you eat.

 

[Kailex]

Seriously, you shouldn't have gotten the number based on "Calling her for a job". You should come clean IMMEDIATELY when you call her.

She'll probably just think you're weak for needing that excuse to call her in the first place.

 

[DJx420]

All of you make good points...

Let me start with our interaction....We spoke about the job for maybe 5 minutes (which led me to believe that she was looking for an excuse to talk to me). Firstly, she came up to me and I threw a line at her and got her laughing pretty quickly. Next time she came up to me was when this all went down. A band was playing so I made sure I was VERY close to her/touching her while we were talking (initiated kino extremely quickly). Spoke about majors/jobs and all that good stuff.

I agree and am definitely planning on coming clean right away. When I asked for her digits I did also say she can a) either give them to me and I'd call or b) she can come in in about a week or so and ask again...she chose the first one...which once again leads me to believe that she wanted me to have them.

 

[SexPDX]

She'll probably just think you're weak for needing that excuse to call her in the first place.

Bingo.

The portrayal that is extended when you get a woman's number based on anything another than a mutual desire to spend time together is one of WEAKNESS. Ideally, she should be throwing her number at you because you've demonstrated so much value during your interaction. I realize it doesn't ALWAYS turn out that way, even with a fairly strong showing you can't count on that. But at the very least you shouldn't need some peripheral excuse that has nothing to do with the attraction between the two of you. It's weak.

Having said that, don't give up here. There is a chance that she's already attracted to you based on your looks or something else that I can't tell from what you've posted (you never really know what happened without having been there) and will forgive this act of weakness but I wouldn't count on that either.

 

[SexPDX]

When I asked for her digits I did also say she can a) either give them to me and I'd call or b) she can come in in about a week or so and ask again...she chose the first one...which once again leads me to believe that she wanted me to have them.

The fact that she chose to be CALLED rather than have to drag her ass back in there again in a week is irrelevant here. The pretext for getting her number was prospective employment situation. Whether or not she is into you and even if this works out for you (which I hope it does) what you did was still weak and we can't read anything solid to her responses here.