So I could use some advice...

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

sodbuster

Master Don Juan

Feb 7, 2014

I had GREAT sex until AFTER her desires were met. Once she had the son she wanted{so her daughter could have a brother}, things changed for the worse. In the marriage counseling we had after 3 years of marriage, I told her I wanted 2 kids and you knew that when we married, now it can be with you or someone else... we eventually DID divorce{10 years later} and the only fond memories I have of that marriage are my 2 sons. The rest was HE!!

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.