So, How many women do you regularly talk to?

[jhonny9546]

Hello everyone!

Now that you're past a certain age, and have lost the desire to make an effort to date or simply get laid, how many women do you keep in touch with on a daily or weekly basis through your text messages?

These could be your friends, your FWBs, I don't know, but in general, how many women do you talk to every day? What do you talk about? How many times a day do you text them (if you set aside a specific time to reply, or if I reply every time a notification arrives)?
Do I think keeping in touch through messages helps maintain a relationship?
What have worked best for you?


Personally, I have a maximum of 10 women which i keep in touch every day.
I connect in the morning, then after lunch, then after dinner.
So no notifications

We talk about how the day went..
With some, new or old, we schedule dates.
We go from texting to meeting up at home for a movie, a quick walk around town, a drive around town, a quick drink at the bar, or simply dinner at home.

Then, if the occasion calls for it, there's sex.
No hassle with dates, or going to malls, or fancy things, expensive dinners or events, or taking her on trips.
Simply the comfort of home...it made me realize that you can have sex and comfortable company at home, without too much effort.

Simply the comfort of home...
How does your dating pattern look?

 

[Captain Redbeard]

You're messaging 10 women every day? Good for you. If I'm in touch with a woman every day she is either my gf or about to be. For women I am casually seeing I'm not engaging in regular small talk over text. A quick check in here or there and setting up our next meet.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

You mean in terms of regular communication? Unless I'm dating or actively sleeping with the her, I'm extremely rare for me to continue to talk to any woman for more than a week or two. I've never had a female friend.

Sometimes I may be talking to several new girls at once that I'm trying to setup something with, but the same applies with them; if we don't meet within a week, two at most, I drop them. Why would I invest so much time into any particular girl instead of just meeting a new one?

So to answer your question, at any given time it's probably 0-3, sometimes maybe 4-6 or so, but that's not the norm. I abhor texting and using my phone in general, so any more than that and I'm likely to get irritated and just completely ignore my phone for several days. My approach as of late is quality over quantity and I'm perfectly happy to walk away even it means going back to 0.

 

[jhonny9546]

You're messaging 10 women every day?

Yes but it doesn't mean I will have s3x with all.
Maybe 2 or 3.
But I will keep in touch with many as possible.
But 10 is my "sky" limit.

quality over quantity

Yes!!

Curious to hear others too

 

[Solomon]

It depends right now I'm hardly talking to any women I had 2 plates in December, then hunkered it down to 1 in January but it ended to no fault of mine or hers (she lost her job and crashed her car all within 3 days etc and was not in mental place to date which I totally understand)

Usually when I'm on the hunt I talk to anywhere from 0-5 girls It really depends on how much effort I put in. Also the older I get the more I frequently take breaks. I just can't deal with the lame b.s. you get from women sometimes. I haven't gone on a new date since December and honestly, I'm fine with that,

 

[Solomon]

I abhor texting and using my phone in general, so any more than that and I'm likely to get irritated and just completely ignore my phone for several days. My approach as of late is quality over quantity and I'm perfectly happy to walk away even it means going back to 0.

I use to love texting, especially if a girl sent dirty pictures, but I loath texting now because some women are just very needy, I;m focused on quality as well as proximity. If a girl lives more than 30 minutes away that's where I notice a lot of texting and crap happens I just can't be bothered to put in forth effort even if I see a girl on my time it's just not worth it when they live far away cause you end up in that textzone whteher you like it or not

 

[Gamisch]

Nowadays one max.

Dealing with lest say two women simultaneously is fedking stressfully IF you try to build something tangible and longterm FINANCIALLY ( not relationship-wise).band even if you want the latter, absence might actually work better than constantly being in communication. Let your attention be a scarcity ...

One of the side effects of my hard work and years being in the field dating toks of women taught me that if a woman REALLY likes you ,you'll be like crack c0caine to her, no other way. Your attention is her oxygen. Take it away and she'll almost literally dies...

Better than being the chasee ( is that even English? Or is it chaser?) But still tiresome for a busy man..

Uno.. No mas por fa vor ..

 

[Gamisch]

I use to love texting, especially if a girl sent dirty pictures, but I loath texting now because some women are just very needy, I;m focused on quality as well as proximity. If a girl lives more than 30 minutes away that's where I notice a lot of texting and crap happens I just can't be bothered to put in forth effort even if I see a girl on my time it's just not worth it when they live far away cause you end up in that textzone whteher you like it or not

On God I sometimes reconsider getting a Nokia 3310. No apps and shyte. Kinda like a burner phone

I don't think it will work tho..sooner or later she'll find out you (OFF FECKING COURSE) have a normal smartphone like even the poorest people have nowadays...


Or perhaps a iPhone 4 lol so you can say WhatsApp isn't supported anymore while you can still drop gems on so suave LOL.

 

[Solomon]

On God I sometimes reconsider getting a Nokia 3310. No apps and shyte. Kinda like a burner phone

I don't think it will work tho..sooner or later she'll find out you (OFF FECKING COURSE) have a normal smartphone like even the poorest people have nowadays...


Or perhaps a iPhone 4 lol so you can say WhatsApp isn't supported anymore while you can still drop gems on so suave LOL.

I think Texting is easy to fall for a "Reperesntiave" espeically if you matched with the girl onlne and haven't met yet, this is one of the reasons I have rule in place that we meet within 7 days (Prferbably sooner the better) I was dealing with one woman who lived 5 hours away she would come to see me (I never went to hers) and texting got old real quick, had to end after my phone died and she called the cops reporting me as a missing person like wtf

 

[Gamisch]

I think Texting is easy to fall for a "Reperesntiave" espeically if you matched with the girl onlne and haven't met yet, this is one of the reasons I have rule in place that we meet within 7 days (Prferbably sooner the better) I was dealing with one woman who lived 5 hours away she would come to see me (I never went to hers) and texting got old real quick, had to end after my phone died and she called the cops reporting me as a missing person like wtf

Yup.

Now dealing with a woman who did that lol..I didn't pick up for two days she was banging on my door in the middle of the night while strictly was advice NOT to drive due to severe ice on the highways and lanes.

It's either this or indifference...

Good rule of thumb to meet within 7 days max. Another problem is that both the previous and the next man of ANY woman WILL be texting her non stop ,so most women are used to being showered with attention. All my beta coworkers who are younger than 50 are calling their wives/ gfs at least three times a day while we're working... sometimes with dangerous machines and substances...while my rule is during working hours NO CONTACT