"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sister with Friends

drmeathead

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What is the general consensus of your sister getting with your friends? While there are a few underlying reasons for it, my sister actively pursues my friends. Ususally under the guise of looking for a long term bf but it never lasts for whatever reason. I have told to just stay away so she doesnt damage my friendships. What is the word on this one fellas?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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aliasguy

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Guys with your sister will generate really weird feelings in you. We are all conditioned to protect our sisters, for good or ill. If your friend is a really great guy, and it all works out, then BINGO, you can have a cool brother-in-law.

But, how often does "it all work out"?

Then, when it crashes, who's "side" are you gonna take? You can lose a friend this way. Or not.



I had a buddy from high school who was really promiscuous in college. He had the hots for one of the sisters of a mutual good friend of ours. The guy, our mutual friend, straight up TOLD our "player" friend to leave the sister alone. I'm pretty sure he did (though we likely will never know.) Hard feelings and broken friendships can come from this kinda stuff.




I guess you just have to weigh out how pissed the friend will be when his deal with your sis crashes.

(And, given the odds, it most likely will.)

You then pay your money and make your choice.



The INVERSE of this, however (girlfriends of your SISTER dating YOU) is a GOLD MINE. For some reason, a different mindset is involved. I've enjoyed this kinda thing a LOT, and no one seems to get hurt. But it's fun.


Wonder why it's so different?

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ketostix

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Well I think your sister and the friend should get your OK first. It's only right that your sister makes sure your OK with her dating the friend and for the friend to make sure you're ok with it too before they proceed. Of course they probably won't do this, but I think you're in the right to not like it.
 

drmeathead

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It has happened several times to myself and my other two brothers. It is a pattern with her. She whigged out when I told her to stop when she started inquiring about my one friend the other day. Her act is tired. I told her as such. My friends arent stupid, they know a doctor hunter when they see one. The take her for what she is worth and it certainly isnt an LTR. I am sick of being busted on because so and so got with my sister.
 

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I hooked up with my friends sister once.

All I can remember is him asking me how her tongue tastes. Pretty uncomfortable. Oh, that and this is the only chick I have ever dated that was certifiably insane.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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