Single mothers..babysitting excuse

[Pandora]

So im dating girls in my age range now and a lot of them have kids. Its really annoying trying to "hang" with them becuz theymost of the time they come up with the excuse that they have a kid. Every once in a while they manage to find a babysitter and come over. Its like a freakin monumental task to catch them when they are free and able to chill. Not sure if they just are not that interested or if their excuses are real.

I can see why single moms are on the bottom of the dating pool. What guy is going to put up with that? I kinda feel sorry for single moms. Anyone else get the "i wanna come out but babysitter blah blah"...

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Pandora,
Accept you are number two in the hierarchy....See them at best as Plates,don't get too attached to them and be careful...They make ideal plates,as they are so busy earning a crust and looking after their little sprog..good for you see them a couple of times a week,time it around the kids bed time...A take out meal,an hour in the cot maybe a DVD and that's it for a few days...Ideal for a DJ!

 

[Tictac]

So target and date only single women.

When a person has kids (I have 3), most other things move into at least second position.

If you know it's an excuse, point that out. Don't let people get away with crap like that.

But most people understand that kids, babysitters and all that stuff are not put there to **** block you. It's just reality. And it's not tough to figure out whether you're getting smoke blown up your ass or dealing with things as they are.

 

[Desdinova]

As a single parent, I generally don't mind dating women who are NOT full-time single parents and have only one child. If the father is involved in the kid's life, it means she has free time.

If she's a full-time single mom WITHOUT the child's father in the child's life, then she's worthless. I've tried suggesting going on dates where we do something with the kids, and most of them are not interested in the idea. Then they continue to make the "I don't have a sitter" excuse, and it ends up being nothing but frustration. Because of that, dating a single mother is usually pointless.