Simple Steps to Meeting, Screening, and Moving Forward with Women

[Aristippus]

Every interaction with women needs to follow this same pattern.

1) Talk with her.
2) Notice how the interaction is going. Positive, negative, or neutral.
3) If the interaction is going well and you're both enjoying the interaction, end the conversation on a high note and either ask for her number or give yours (many people say that giving your number doesn't work, but I've found that not to be true). It's called gauging her interest and also the proper use of timing. Do not ask for or give your number to a woman who responds negatively or if her response is neutral.
4) Notice if she acts like she really is looking forward to spending time with you.
5) Notice if she initiates lots of friendly touch and if she responds favorably to friendly touch.
6) Move forward in small increments. If she responds positively to a few gentle kisses on the cheek, she will most likely welcome a kiss on the lips later.
7) Do not obsess over sex. Enjoy doing the things that will turn her on and will automatically lead to sex.

Repeat.

I know. This might seem stupidly simple to most reading this, but this is basically it. This is all you have to do. The idea is to keep doing this until it becomes second nature. You follow the same pattern for relationships and for short-term flings. For one night, you simply skip getting the number and move forward physically. The steps still follow the same order. You just leave one out.

Hope this helps!

 

[BeDJ]

Very good.

I would like to add that you have to develop a connection/rapport during the conversation. The easiest way to do that is common interest. Without that chemistry or relationship, it is nearly impossible to progress. Somewhere in the interaction, leave an opening topic so you have something to talk about for the phone/text follow-up.

 

[Purefilth]

Number 3 forgot to include that as the man it is your job to control the interaction. Keep it positive. If the tone drops then it is up to you to change the subject.

 

[Purefilth]

bump

 

[zekko]

You follow the same pattern for relationships and for short-term flings

When I think about screening, I think more about the potential for the long term. Having said that, I think that I can learn just as much by observing her interactions with other men as I can by my interactions with her. If she has overtly sleazy tendencies, they will likely come out when she is around other men.

A lot of women will seemingly show high interest in you, but then act the same way with every other guy. This may (or may not) matter to you if you're just looking for a quick lay, but should disqualify her for the long term. For a LTR, I have to know that she sees something unique in me that she doesn't see in other males. If she treats other guys just like she treats you, she is likely either low interest, an attention ho, or a town bike.

 

[Aristippus]

Her showing a unique interest in me would apply to a fling or a long-term relationship. You bring up a good point when you mention observing her interactions with other men. This is so automatic with me that I didn't even think to mention this. I simply assumed other people do this. A woman who is overly flirty with every man who is within 10 feet of her is a turn-off to me even if I only wanted to have a fling with her and nothing else. When I'm with you, I will give you 100% of my attention and expect nothing less from you.

I'm a married man and have no intention of going outside of the marriage, but the same principles apply, from my point of view, whether you're looking for a wife or something more short-term. She needs to display the qualities that you like right now, and she also needs to not do things that turn you off.