"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Silverwex's first FR ever!

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My days of approaching women has officially begun...! Let the fun begin!!!

I started off having the usual few drinks at home before heading out to meet the guys - this would be my first 'proper' night out sarging (I had approached a girl last week with my ****tail opener but that was very brief hence the lack of a FR for that).

Entered our new fav bar, Dakota, at about 9.45pm - the place was buzzing and full of talent. Got another drink and observed the area. I would have to wait til my wing came as the guys I was hanging with were 1) too shy and 2) too full on.

My wing (who is in a LTR - would never cheat on the GF tho!) entered about 10.30pm and suggested we have a look around for the ladies.

We did a lap of the bar and on the way back to where the guys were sitting my wing, D, said that he saw some potential earlier on, they were giving us IOI's or something like that. We head back. D points out the 2 set in question and I have a look - as far as I can remember they are a HB6.5 and HB7. He asks if he should open as he senses Im nervous - 'No man, Ill do it' I replied. A surge of nervous energy went through me but I pushed on and opened with my new fav opener:

ME: Hey girls, wheres a good place to go from here?
HB6.5: We dont really know, we're not from town.
ME: Oh right, I heard something about that club... (club name here)?
HB: Oh yeah that place is good blah blah blah
ME: Cool, and theres another place... (other clubs name here?)
HB: Yeah that place is blah blah

After we had discussed the areas nightlife I ended the conversation and waited for my wing to do the same. Im concentrating more on starting conversations than getting K/N/F closes at the mo.

Crap! Just remembered that earlier on before my wing had come into the bar there was a 3 set sitting on their own right behind me - shouldve opened...

Anyway, we leave the bar with a new found sense of confidence and head to another bar, Chocolate, dont open any sets til we head upstairs to the club part of the building.

We stand around for a while looking down on the dancefloor - a 4 set is beside me - noone hot there but eventually I tell the guys Im gonna open them as Im bored lol!

The same conversation as above ensues and I exit.

The best part is coming... NOW!

Theres a 6 SET!!! sitting across from us - they arent the best looking but one of them is about a HB6.75

I walk over followed by the boys.

Same opener. I ask can I sit on the free seat (didnt wanna appear forceful) and I sit beside the HB6.75 - general chit-chat and she tell me the ages of all the girls (dunno why...) I say im 21 (23 really) then she says she 29 or something - then I tell her I lied and im really 23, taking out my passport ID to prove it lol. The funny thing about this is that the HB6.75 is THE CLUB MANAGER (or something like that!) - in hindsight I shouldve negged her for running such a crappy club (well it was pretty dead - lol) and gotten free drinks off her! bah!

We exit.

On way outta club a HB7.25 is dancing on her own by a raliling and she turns around and we hold eye contact and smile for a few seconds - wasnt bothered taking the effort to stop walking! :) Next!!!

We go back to first bar but its dead and we head to the big club in the area.

Blah blah blah drinking looking at women thinking if I should approach a 3 set and not doing it for some reason - perfect opportunity too as one girls was wearing those things you wear on your head that shakes when you walk...

We go dancing and Im mingling amongst the crowd loooking for HBs. A girl comes over to me (HB6) and says its her birthday, I say 'oh cool, well have a good one' and she asks me to give her a kiss - I just peck her and she says a 'proper one'... so I tongue her for a while but exit as I wanna try someone else.

Then... HB7 appears, shes good looking but not spectacular but she had that X factor about her.

She bumps into me accidentally as were dancing and looks back and says sorry with a gorgeous, sexy, innocent - yet sneaky/flirty - smile.

I smile and say no bother - this gives me an idea. I then intentionally back up and bump her jokingly.

NOW THIS IS WHERE I NEED A FULL TIME WING THAT CAN OVERCOME A ****BLOCKING FRIEND!!!

We start flirting on the floor bumping into each other, i wrap my hands around her, her backing into me (god I love when girls are slim with a toned body, moving your hands across the stomach from behind, her loving it...) anyway, her little dwarf friend (seriously shes about 4'10" :)) keeps dragging her away from me and trying to keep hb7 with her. Not only that but, a guy starts getting in my way to which I try act alpha bystaring at him and going for her even more - she was loving it - he was blown outta the water and I was having a great time lol.

So anyway were geting closer, no talk, just touching and flirting and I signal to my friends to get the small blonde one (HBs friend) away and keep her occupied while I do my thing. They wouldnt do it tho. End of that. I was gonna try and chat up her friend and make her at least smile (!) but I decided not to.

So anyway me and my two mates are dancing away and I look over in the corner of the club and spot the girl I kissed earlier sitting on her own. Well actually i didnt know it was her til I pointed her out to my wing and he said it was her so I leave the floor and walk straight over and plonk myself down beside her telling her to smile.

A few seconds later I look across from me and spot this gangster style fella (ya know the type that has ear pierced, angry face and would hit his mother!) talking to someone and he wasnt looking happy. He then proceeded to walk over our way and I ask is that her BF - she says no but it would be a good idea if I leave (she was warning me in a nice way). So un-alpha like I get up SLOWLY stare at him for a second and walk off SLOWLY showing he doesnt scare me. She wasnt worth it anyway!

Outside after closing time, the HB7 and her small friend walk past, not seeing us, I was gonna go up but decided not to...

Ah well, roll on next week!

PS - The above FR comes from a guy, who, no matter how drunk he got would NEVER approach a girl 3 weeks ago! Now it comes so easily to me - wanna know how you, the shy guy can do it? Well then see my most recent tip in the TIPS section! :)

Cheers

Over and out...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sounds like you had a hell of a time, good job man.

btw, good way to avoid the gangster situation.
 

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Thanks guys.

bluelemond: Good point but Ive only become interested in approaching in the past few weeks, got my fair share of girls without ever cold approaching before but now I want more... :)

Btw, any ideas/tips on how i couldve gotten rid of that ****blocking friend - while we were on the dancefloor?
 

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now im not sure where i read it, i think it was a FR, but the guy diffused the CB by giving her a big hug and asking the HB if he could adopt the CB as his little sister.

i thought it was pure genius.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oh yeah... I read that yesterday! Damn, shoulda used that!

Lets just add that to my arsenal... :)

Thanks
 
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