"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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millwall

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First time post so sorry if my Q seems a little banal but i need some advice. Recently came out of a five year relationship i had been in since i was 18. Just about through the mandatory "messed up in the head" phase and ready to start my old life again (generally shagging around). However i have a) forgotten how to do the whole women thing and b: have lost most of my self confidence (dont ask).
Heres the gist: There is a really fit bird where i work, have never spoken to her but deep down i think she is interested in me. I would really like to go over and ask her out or even introduce myself but really dont know how to without feeling very self conscious and very scared.
Please help with advice and general words of encouragement!!!!!!
Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't fear rejection -- it's all a numbers game -- the more women you approach, the more you'll win, and the more you'll get rejected. get comfortable with being turned down.
 

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See fellas this is the type of Newbie im willing to help, he wants help and we know exactly what the problem is and he isn't whining about it, this is the type I can help and feel good and not frustrated helping.......see the closed rant I made today if you're wondering what im talking about.


and on to the help part.....the best place to start man is going to that link above and reading the DJ bible start with the attitude section of articles.......

also go to www.doubleyourdating.com and subscribe to his free newsletter.

and Also on that link above that the DJ bible is on ready Waldens Bootcamp journal...that will make you more motivated than ever and give you tons of hope.

Pugs
 
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