Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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sick n tired of flakes

evil_tomato

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It's like every girl I meet of Facebook/tinder, we have great conversations, lots of chemistry, they seem really into me, can't wait to meet me...so we set up "dates" and then when the day comes they all pull out with sh1tty excuses as to why they can't make it...no counter offers though...so over it. What am I doing wrong??

I do go out and meet girls in real life too but haven't come across anyone who tickles my fancy..but there's a couple of girls who I met off tinder that I'm pretty keen on but when they keep flaking on me despite being "attracted" to me it really gets to you....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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compleks

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Get out more. Online flake rates are way higher than in the real world.

Also, get more plates so it's less of an issue.
 

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Is it possible that sometimes girls actually flake because their "too nervous" to meet you??
 

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lots of women use online just to pass the time, they have lots of other guys too chatting them up. they talk to you and other guys at the same time, if someone is better they go out with them instead. i bet you get frustrated over it. its better meeting girls in person at least you know what you're getting right in front of you.
 

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It's hard for me to meet women in real life I am always working, my job is very demanding and I work on weekends which make it even harder. ..

So I use online dating/tinder mainly...I heard from my brothers girlfriend that sometimes girls can get pretty nervous when meeting a guy she likes and sometimes they chicken out at the last minute...but could still be in to you....is this true ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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compleks

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If it makes you feel better.

Most of the time it's a lack of interest though, or no real intention of actually meeting you. If they are interested, they will let you know about it.
 

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It can be for a bazillion reasons. One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend and started using Tinder. She had a date lined up one evening. A few hours to the date, she got back with her boyfriend. What do you think happened to the date she had set up. She cancelled on him of course.

Sometimes it's not you. You can do everything right but it just won't work out. It might be that she started talking to someone she found way cuter than you. It can be anything. Just try not to get phased by it and move on.
 

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Use the one strike rule.

A woman will move mountains to see a man she likes. Oh and "she's too nervous to meet"? My ass. That's just her not interested.
 

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evil_tomato said:
I do go out and meet girls in real life too but haven't come across anyone who tickles my fancy..but there's a couple of girls who I met off tinder that I'm pretty keen on but when they keep flaking on me despite being "attracted" to me it really gets to you....

Dont see how that makes sense. Girls on Tinder better then ones you see when you go out? You should start going better places dude. Trying out different bars, clubs.

Tinder for me is for s.hits and giggles and if I can get a lay out of it, I aint complaining lol though when I go out is when I get serious in meeting girls.
 
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