"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LiftnWeights09

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i am very shy and the girl i like around me is very shy also so does this mean she likes me also we havent tlked much but she is always looking at me in class and i almost alwasy catch her but im afraid of rejectiion so i never tlk to her i need serious help i dont really no wat to say to her ive say hey all the time but that probably gets old after awhile. so any suggestions?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PleasureKing

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no worries liftnweights09 (dont know your real name), you can easily use this situation to your advantage.

if you have a class with her, ask her if she wants to study with you for an upcoming test. if she asks why, tell her "because i usually do better when i study with someone. but not just anyone, i only study with intelligent people who are also fun at the same time" (have a smirk on your face).

OR try this

notice if she changes something about her looks. maybe ironed her hair? added highlights to her hair? shoes too (women love it when people notice they got new shoes). comment on it, say it looks really nice on her. she will smile back for sure (most women do). then as the convo comes to an end, tell her "but hey, no matter what you do, you still look beautiful" (smile dude!).

OR try this
when you see her alone, or just in a situation where she is really bored, go up to her and say "hey <insert girls name>...short pause/breathe(keep eye contact)...what are you up to?". judging by her response, keep the conversation flowing. use keywords in the sentences she uses to ask more open ended questions.

if both of you stop talking, and it becomes an awkward silence, blurt out "ah man, im so hungry. i wish i could just eat a steak right now". (steak is the best because its universal, and it sounds better than saying "hamburger" or something else cheap.)

right after this, ask her what her favorite food is. keep the convo going from there then. be smooth, dont stutter, pretend your talking to one of your close guy friends if you have to (just dont picture his face on the girls body, you will burst out laughing and feel a little disgusted at the same time haha)



always remember, you have to be relaxed, and you have to express a fun attitude towards her. if she is interested in you, whatever emotion you give her, she will give it back. give her happy, she gives you happy, give her boring, she gives you boring....get it?

peace
 

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You may (or rather WILL) have to break all of the usual 'DJ' rules here..

Ok here goes:

INITIATE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE TO PULL THIS OFF SO SHE KNOWS YOU AREN'T REALLY A SHY LITTLE GIRL!!!!!!!!

Smile at her,
Approach her,
(Make sure she knows you're approaching)
Gentle touch on her shoulder,
"You know, we've got something in common - we both can't stop looking at each other and are too scared to step it up!"

Check her response - should be a smile and a little laugh..

If you don't know her name, ask her it.

Then..

"Let's get a coffee <first name> and break down these damn barriers, they're doing us no good are they?" Cheeky confident smile at her.

Good luck. You are the man. You are confident. You will approach her.

If she really is a shy girl, you may just find a gem here. ;)

The Muscly Jerk
 

PleasureKing

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musclyjerk said:
You may (or rather WILL) have to break all of the usual 'DJ' rules here..

Ok here goes:

INITIATE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE TO PULL THIS OFF SO SHE KNOWS YOU AREN'T REALLY A SHY LITTLE GIRL!!!!!!!!

Smile at her,
Approach her,
(Make sure she knows you're approaching)
Gentle touch on her shoulder,
"You know, we've got something in common - we both can't stop looking at each other and are too scared to step it up!"

Check her response - should be a smile and a little laugh..

If you don't know her name, ask her it.

Then..

"Let's get a coffee <first name> and break down these damn barriers, they're doing us no good are they?" Cheeky confident smile at her.

Good luck. You are the man. You are confident. You will approach her.

If she really is a shy girl, you may just find a gem here. ;)

The Muscly Jerk
or that :D
 

dadmonson

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Usually two shy people in school r hard to get together but once they do and end up as boyfriend and girlfriend they stay together for a long long time. A lot of times husband and wife.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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