"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Shy people

October

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Just a thought...what do you guys do to get shy people to not be shy anymore (besides getting them drunk)?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zaine

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Get them to be comfortable around you. Act a little afc, but not too much. They see you as intimidating with your confidence and C&F attitude.
 

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I have some experience with this. I usually just keep talking to the person, showing them that you are friendly and that you like to talk. Keep it light, fun, and basic conversation. If they are shy, they will be abrupt at first but once you start chipping away, they will start to talk a little more. During convo also try to find some common ground. Favorite TV show, favorite music group or genre, if you share some hobby or interest, etc, and just talk about that topic alot. Smile alot around them also. Just keep going and a shy person will drop their guard and open up a little bit sooner or later.
 

Fitch

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Gain their trust. Be affable and be yourself.
 
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