"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Showing interest - what is enough?

cycol

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Hey guys i was reading a few stuff here and i was wondering:
showing too much interest is no good, too little is probably no good too.
Is there a fine line between being too snobby(antisocial) and being too interested?
For example, if i meet a girl through a friend, if i ask too many questions i might be viewed as too friendly/pushy, but if not i'd be antisocial? and whats the difference between being anti social and the girl thinking that you are not worth talking to? - both involves no conversation.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tsmith2334

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Figuring out that fine line is why some guys get women and some guys don't.

One tip I have is 2 steps forward, 1 step back. i.e. Show a decent amount of interest and then show less. Show more again, then less again.

Don't be predictable. Try to let her make some of the first moves. And don't show more interest than she's shown for you.
 

Scars

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I don't really show interest until I see signs from the girl first. There will be subtle non-verbal hints they uncontrollably give off and you just listen to your intuition.

I just always project sexuality and it works for me.

If your the happy fun loving guy who jokes with all the guys and flirts with every girl then she wont think that much about it. And it wont feel like you're trying to impress her, you're just being yourself.

Once she gives those "i want you" eyes, then you single her out and seclude her away from everyone to go talk in private and then you build up comfort with her.

This is pretty much my routine every night out. Flirt with them all and pick the one that is being the most reactive to your flirting and with the highest interest and then just shot gun it once she gives the O.K.
 
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