should u avoid girls with daddy issues? and does that explain wanting male attention

[pete101]

if a girl has daddy issues either by abandonment or died when she was just a child, it must have an effect on her interactions with men in her life with no male presence there to guide her.

does this explain their constant need for male attention when they get older? do they make bad gf's?

what should u really expect from girls like this?

 

[SchoolBoy]

Every girl is different, but a woman without a father may somewhat be a little more clingy and needy, as the "boyfriend" will be seen more as of a missing father figure in her life. In my opinion, it is best to avoid women having issues with men.

 

[Proselytiser]

Stay away from women with daddy issues. It's like a spectrum running from 'annoying' at one end to 'BPD' at the other.

 

[zekko]

As an older male, I think daddy issues are a good thing

 

[jophil28]

Stay away from women with daddy issues. It's like a spectrum running from 'annoying' at one end to 'BPD' at the other.

In the vast majority of cases where a woman has had some "daddy issues" she also has "mommy issues". It is rare to have a dysfunctional father and a healthy loving mother. Usually the notion of complementary pathology applies to marriage and parenting. Crazy men marry crazy women and then they breed and raise crazy kids who imitate their parent's behavior.
Find yourself a traditional chick from a conservative family which lives sanely.

 

[pete101]

but if she didn't have a crazy father nor 1 that abandoned her, i mean 1 that died when she was very young. would she still have these kind of issues?

 

[jophil28]

but if she didn't have a crazy father nor 1 that abandoned her, i mean 1 that died when she was very young. would she still have these kind of issues?

Give me an example of the kinds of behavior in her that would disturb you.

 

[Cherokee]

My ex had so many "daddy" issues, her mum and dad divorced when she was younger and she lived with her mum for all of her teenage life, a few of her boyfriends before me had been the oddballs of society, dressed in old man's clothes and listened to 70's music. In my experience they tend to be much more clingy and search for "dad qualities"... mine even liked being treated like a child and getting told told. It's best to stay away from emotionally inept females; although this is almost impossible, at least try to get a partially sane one.

 

[pete101]

Give me an example of the kinds of behavior in her that would disturb you.

constantly needing male attention from other guys, not necessarily attention wh0ring behaviour so to speak but just the constant need for male attention in her life due to the lack of it in her youth. is this valid?

i do get the feeling she likes to be told off almost in like a daddy sort of way, the couple of times where she acted quite spoilt i told her that it wasn't cool. she was like 'well i dont care it wasn't cool..' i was thinking wtf? she did it a 2nd time the other day where she got all stroppy about me supposedly judging her and i told her that it was the only time i thought she was a bad girl acting spoilt. she seemed to take what i said to heart and accepted it.

also being raised by her mother the whole time she has a tendency to side with whatever female trait she feels, she seems rather naive about right and wrong.

i dont like what she said to me how it's ok for us to date other people if we're in a relationship as long as 'u dont kiss or go any further..' to me that seems like cheating even emotionally if you're out on a date with someone and you have a bf.

in her twisted mind getting male attention is ok, and going out with other guys is ok as long as nothing physical happens. could the lack of dad in her life explain this irrational reasoning?

deep down i think she's a good girl, but very misjudged. doesn't cheat but does stuff that normal people would consider cheating.. emotionally anyway.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I tend to fall for girls with no mother. My oneitis' mom died when she was 9. I sort of wept when she told me this. She only remembers her mom spanking her because she was "wild." I believe it. My mom's mom died when she was 8.

 

[jophil28]

constantly needing male attention from other guys, not necessarily attention wh0ring behaviour so to speak but just the constant need for male attention in her life due to the lack of it in her youth. is this valid?

i do get the feeling she likes to be told off almost in like a daddy sort of way, the couple of times where she acted quite spoilt i told her that it wasn't cool. she was like 'well i dont care it wasn't cool..' i was thinking wtf? she did it a 2nd time the other day where she got all stroppy about me supposedly judging her and i told her that it was the only time i thought she was a bad girl acting spoilt. she seemed to take what i said to heart and accepted it.

also being raised by her mother the whole time she has a tendency to side with whatever female trait she feels, she seems rather naive about right and wrong.

i dont like what she said to me how it's ok for us to date other people if we're in a relationship as long as 'u dont kiss or go any further..' to me that seems like cheating even emotionally if you're out on a date with someone and you have a bf.

in her twisted mind getting male attention is ok, and going out with other guys is ok as long as nothing physical happens. could the lack of dad in her life explain this irrational reasoning?

deep down i think she's a good girl, but very misjudged. doesn't cheat but does stuff that normal people would consider cheating.. emotionally anyway.

She is not a suitable contender for a G/f position. Perhaps a FB at best.

 

[pete101]

She is not a suitable contender for a G/f position. Perhaps a FB at best.

but is the lack of her dad in her life a major reason why she's acting in the way that she is?

she's never had a father figure to tell her what's acceptable and what isn't, she has only seen/heard it from her mother.

the seeing other guys things is messed up if in a relationship, it's like ok you can more easily forgive something like her talking to a guy flirting etc rather than her actually cheating physically kissing etc but that still doesn't make it right.

she just seems really naive, other stuff she tells me from her past makes me realise she really doesn't seem to have a clue..

 

[trent81]

Best sex I ever had was when girls called me "daddy".

 

[Proselytiser]

Look, maybe she is confused. But that doesn't mean ****. It's her behaviour that matters not her motivation. Whether she's confused and naive, or whether she's a manipulative man-hating ***** that likes to hit back at her dad by cheating on every guy she can, it doesn't make a difference, because the outcome is still the exact same.

 

[jophil28]

Look, maybe she is confused. But that doesn't mean ****. It's her behaviour that matters not her motivation. Whether she's confused and naive, or whether she's a manipulative man-hating ***** that likes to hit back at her dad by cheating on every guy she can, it doesn't make a difference, because the outcome is still the exact same.

This ^^ is what all you guys who are "confused by her behavior" need to read over and over until you absorb the wisdom.
If you waste your younger years trying to 'understand' women's poor behavior ( or one in particular) you will just waste your youth.

You want to know what to do when a woman gives you doubt or creates drama ? You walk away is all . That's right, you just leave her to think, pout, sulk, and dramatize to her heart's content in your absence.
By staying around and "listening to her concerns" you are offering her an emotional reward for her acting out, and you are further encouraging her to repeat it in future.
I don't care what you have been brainwashed into believing by those feminised limp d1cks in psych school who love to talk about "open communication" between men and women. Ultimately it is a truth that human nature repeats behavior which brings rewards, and avoids actions which bring hurt and pain.
Walking away from a woman is painful for her in ways that your male brain cannot comprehend.

Yeah, I know, you may have met someone who is "special" but she just has a few "issues"..(BTW, back in the day we used to called them what they really are - PROBLEMS. ) and you are thinking that you can "help" her. Deep down you believe that if you can assist her in overcoming her issues then she will be so greatful that she will realize what a great catch you are and ...blah blah.

Listen- I have NEVER seen a guy snare and keep a great woman like this.
I have indeed seen a few guys try, and they failed and eventually became partners in her miserable pathology.

Avoid woman with "issues" because in three month's time you will be engulfed in them and gasping for breath.

 

[pete101]

This ^^ is what all you guys who are "confused by her behavior" need to read over and over until you absorb the wisdom.
If you waste your younger years trying to 'understand' women's poor behavior ( or one on particular) you will just waste your youth.

You want to know what to do when a woman gives you doubt or creates drama ? You walk away is all . Thats' right, you just leave her to think, pout, sulk, and dramatize to her heart's content in your absence.
By staying around and "listening to her concerns" you are offering her an emotional reward for her acting out, and you are further encouraging her to repeat it in future.
I don't care what you have been brainwashed into believing by those feminised limp d1cks in psych school who love to talk about "open communication", ultimately it is truth that human nature repeats behavior which brings rewards and avoids actions which bring hurt and pain.
Walking away from a woman is painful for her in ways that your male brain cannot comprehend.

Yeah, I know, you may have met someone who is "special" but she just has a few "issues"..(BTW, back in the day we used to called them what they really are - PROBLEMS. ) and you are thinking that you can "help" her. Deep down you believe that if you can assist her in overcoming her issues then she will be so greatful that she will realize what a great catch you are and ...blah blah.
Listen- I have NEVER seen a guy snare and keep a great woman like this.
I have indeed seen a few guys try, and they and eventually became partners in her miserable pathology.

Avoid woman with "issues" because in three month's time you will be engulfed in them and gasping for breath.

i hear what you're saying and it all makes sense. but i did walk away.. at least she 'thought' i would did. she looked at past behaviour between us where i walked away and it frightened her that she'd lose me.

thing is her dad died, there was no abandonment, im just wondering whether this is going to have an effect on her behaviour in some way?

if i walk away, and she tries to reconnect with me, does how quickly she tries to reconnect with me make a difference how long i make her sweat?

i.e. if she gets back to me after 1 hour, 1 day.. how much NC'ing do i do respectively?

 

[Proselytiser]

If a girl's father died when she was young, yes, I would reason that it had a major effect on the development of her personality. Good luck sorting that **** out though, it'll be a lot more difficult (impossible) than normal female craziness.