"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should Leave Her ? Se doesnt call me We Dont Talk No More !!

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Ok so me and this girl started going out on new years eve, we was getting to know each other for like 3 months before that, and at first she wasnt much into me but her interest i guess grew and ended up fining for me so i asked her out on new yrs eve and she said yeah, i could see the joy in her face when she said it.

The problem is that since then we dont even talk to each other no more ew use to text each other like 35 times literally everyday now we dont text at all, we use to call each other like 3 times a day, now she dont call me at all, like the way i see it is as if she wants me to do allll the moves, to make her feel like im on her.

I have only seen her one day since the new year started, im telling you that everything was the opposite before we started going out.

She has a loooot of male friends which she says they are just friends i dont feel confortable with that, and she claims that im the only one that she is into,

The thing that gets me the most is that we havent even kissed yet, never had the most we have done is hold hands, what should i do here?

ITs really getting to me since thats all i think constantly...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Xxxxxxxxxxxxx Ttttttt!!!
 

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Plain & Simple said:
She has a loooot of male friends which she says they are just friends i dont feel confortable with that, and she claims that im the only one that she is into,

huge red flag. i agree with the other poster. now you have oneitis because of this which is just going to make matters worse.
 

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what if shes thinking the same thing?

"he thinks i should make all the moves?"
"why isnt he calling me?"
"okay maybe he doesnt like me anymore...."

heres the best way to find out.

1. call her
2. ask her out
3. go for the kiss

accepts = interest
declines = no interest

that simple.
 

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^^^Thats what i was thinking too, that she's thinking the samething which is what im really feeling to be honest, that she feeling the same way i feel.

She even told me in the past, how comethat i do not call her...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Plain & Simple - to put it plainly and simply :rolleyes: - YOU are the man not her - things go where YOU take it- men are the leaders!!!!! Be a man!!

Do not take her too seriously - many male friends is a very bad sign!!!
 

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you were with her on new years *and no kiss*?? even at midnight??

next!
 

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yo man for your own mental-health too, and I know what you're feeling, take a chill. You need to stop thinking about your next move and worrying about her and just have fun and go with the flow
 

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I don't see many male friends as a threat. If she's good looking she probably has lot of AFCs keeping touch yet too afraid to do a thing. She knows it too. As long as both are on the same page it should not be a problem, and you probably have lots of female friends too. Many beautiful girls have lot of male "friends". Sure, it's a small red flag, definitely not huge. imo.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Plain & Simple - to put it plainly and simply :rolleyes: - YOU are the man not her - things go where YOU take it- men are the leaders!!!!! Be a man!!

Do not take her too seriously - many male friends is a very bad sign!!!
:up:

I couldn't have said it better..Next that chick, dude.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tell her about your undying love for her and that ever since you met her you knew that she was the one. women love that romantic sh1t, go all out
 

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no need to get jealous over male friends, its obvious those guys fuc ked up and got into the friend zone somehow so dont worry about them. but the lack of contact is kinda disrespecting so maybe u need to forget about her and go after chicks who will actually be polite and return calls.
 

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Thanx for yall advice, i mean i have a whole lot of female friends :)

but im a man though im supposed to....:)


thanx for the advice though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No it wasnt new years eve it was on the 30th although that it turned into new years eve.
But simply me two of my friends and her and 2 of her friends went out to the movies, nothing happened it was a good night really she just keeps saying that "she is not ready to kiss me yet" but i asked her out and she said yeah?

why would she say yes if this is how she is gonna act its really no point to it, and also how are u ready to go out with me but not to kiss me...lol oh well i dont really give 2 fuks about this girl anymore, im definetly not gonna call her or text her and when she does i'll tell her straight up what the deal is.
 
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