You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Sounds like she's the kind of girl that will hook up the first date.
The problem is she's 22 with 2 kids
If you can keep your heart in your chest, hit it for a while and move on, just remember that good pvssy can change a weak man's mind.NightOwl said:Well that's what I wanted to hear. Honesty.
As for getting sucked into her bs, I won't go into my life details, but let's say it would be impossible for me to be a provider. She'd have nothing to use me for and she'd quickly see that I know as much about kids as I do about the WNBA.
I don't discount the fact that since she isn't ugly and is my first, I could get attached and want a relationship with her. That's what I'm afraid of. That's honestly why I was willing to wait for a while and find some 9 or 10 that if I get attached, at least I have some HB to learn from.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
NightOwl said:Well I think it's unfair pressure to put on any woman "I'm a virgin and want you to be the one to introduce me to sex"