"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I wait?

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Brethren:

Just came back from the K&G Suit store. There is this woman whom I see every time I go shopping there. When we first met, we hit it off instantly speaking about school, work, dreams ..etc. When we first started speaking she was talking about her and her boyfriend etc. Instantly I thought to myself to leave that alone for I do not break happy homes.

Today was something different. Perhaps I'm reading to into this however here we go. I go into the store to buy a suit and I see her and she now started giving me hugs. Different but alright I play it smooth, we talk a bit then she says to go pick a suit and come back to see her. COOL! I thought nothing of it, I was not going to seduce her or anything for I knew she had a man. However right before I left she comes out crying. I asked her if she was alright, she said yes feeling sad and she stated she didn't to bore me with her problems. When she clocks out she comes to me and gives me her number and tells me to call her. Now I"m thinking to myself the problem could be Boyfriend issues either they are having trouble or he straight cut her loose.

Here is my question let's say it was the latter and that her boyfriend has cut her loose, that's a prime opening to seduce her to my whims for right now she is how shall I say this .. vunerable? The point I"m trying to get to is, I'm not trying to get put into the FRIENDS zone. I learned my lesson of listening to females so sad problems and then in the end .. " Oh your such a good friend".

My thought is to wait and call her tomorrow and ask her how she is feeling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Or she just found out he cheated on her. Could be anything.

My advice is to stay off of the phone on this one. Stop back into the store. If she still wants to talk, set it up like a date to have this talk in public over coffee or food.

The reason I advise doing this in public is because she will be less likely to open the flood gates of sorrow on you if that's actually the case. You should be able to get a better grip on the situation based on how she handles that arraingement and what's said from there.
 
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