Truebrit
Don Juan
kdnash82 said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Should I tell her
- Thread starter kdnash82
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
fwiw, women actually find it attractive that I am divorced. I did not think it would be that way. Men are not like that. We want unused property, not someone else's old toys. Women are different. They do not see a man as going down in value every time they have sex or have a relationship prior to meeting us. Women are intrigued when I tell them I was married. I asked a woman about this, and she said, "of course they are. It means that at least one woman thought you were of high value. Plus they want to start comparing themselves to your ex, wondering what she had about her that made you want to marry her."
Don't tell her sh!t unless she brings it up.
If that is the case then tell her that you were married once but it didn't work out. If she wants to know when you split with your ex tell her that it was over before you met her.
It doesn't matter if you were still "technically" married when you met her. You were separated and it WAS over. The technical part is just paperwork and doesn't mean anything.
P.S. Asking for advice and then slagging the people who take the time to respond is pretty low.
If that is the case then tell her that you were married once but it didn't work out. If she wants to know when you split with your ex tell her that it was over before you met her.
It doesn't matter if you were still "technically" married when you met her. You were separated and it WAS over. The technical part is just paperwork and doesn't mean anything.
P.S. Asking for advice and then slagging the people who take the time to respond is pretty low.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear KDNash,
I have been twice divorced,had many Relationships similar to yours in duration,I have never been asked the date of my divorce,never even been asked to substantiate the fact that I am divorced which is far stranger....Forget about it KD it's full steam ahead to your next impetuous disaster.
I have been twice divorced,had many Relationships similar to yours in duration,I have never been asked the date of my divorce,never even been asked to substantiate the fact that I am divorced which is far stranger....Forget about it KD it's full steam ahead to your next impetuous disaster.
Truebrit
Don Juan
Its not rocket science - too scared to spoil a good thing with sex + weak approach = AFCSlickster said:
spider_007
Master Don Juan
play it down: you had a Britny Spears moment.
To the original poster - why are you wasting our time?
Warrior gives you his take, and then a short 15 min later you are already discounting what he said.
If you are not going to even CONSIDER others' advice, why the hell are you asking for it?
We are not girls, we are men, and that means we are not necessarily going to tell you what you want to hear.
Open your mind, and ruminate over the responses in this thread for a week or so, and then decide on your own
Warrior gives you his take, and then a short 15 min later you are already discounting what he said.
If you are not going to even CONSIDER others' advice, why the hell are you asking for it?
We are not girls, we are men, and that means we are not necessarily going to tell you what you want to hear.
Open your mind, and ruminate over the responses in this thread for a week or so, and then decide on your own
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude are you for real? You're going to actually try and claim that you're not being AFC and rip on Warrior's advice, which was right on? Your head is in the clouds man, and I'm still trying to clean off the AFC you upchucked all over me with your first post.
"Sex complicates things?" Who told you that, your little sister? That may be the single most womany line I've ever seen posted on this site. She likes your friends? Who gives a sh*t, she's lucky to even have met your friends, especially since it's only been a month. And you're considering going to Hawaii, after knowing this chick for 1 freaking month? Who's paying? Is she? If so by all means go. If you're footing the bill, AFC.
Did you ever think that maybe, just maybe since you're IN the situation and obviously already waaaaaaaaaay more into this girl than you should be after only a month, we can see things you can't? And some of those things we can see that you're oblivious to may be stuff you don't wanna hear. So don't come in here, get solid advice from a top poster, and rip him and everyone else because they tell you something you don't want to hear.
Yahoo! relationship advice thataway------------->
"Sex complicates things?" Who told you that, your little sister? That may be the single most womany line I've ever seen posted on this site. She likes your friends? Who gives a sh*t, she's lucky to even have met your friends, especially since it's only been a month. And you're considering going to Hawaii, after knowing this chick for 1 freaking month? Who's paying? Is she? If so by all means go. If you're footing the bill, AFC.
Did you ever think that maybe, just maybe since you're IN the situation and obviously already waaaaaaaaaay more into this girl than you should be after only a month, we can see things you can't? And some of those things we can see that you're oblivious to may be stuff you don't wanna hear. So don't come in here, get solid advice from a top poster, and rip him and everyone else because they tell you something you don't want to hear.
Yahoo! relationship advice thataway------------->
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Personally, I don't feel the need to tell her unless she brings it up. There's no need to jeopardize the relationship yet until you've become more invested. It sounds like you guys are moving pretty quick in this relationship which is a good thing.
THink of it this way, if you had jus tme ta girl for the first time in a cold approach, you wuld never tell her this stuff. it would just scare her away.
For this woman, if she spends say, 3 months with you, and you two become extremely close and she's really into you, THEN you tell her, shell be much more forgiving and technically you didn't lie to her, you just never brought it up
THink of it this way, if you had jus tme ta girl for the first time in a cold approach, you wuld never tell her this stuff. it would just scare her away.
For this woman, if she spends say, 3 months with you, and you two become extremely close and she's really into you, THEN you tell her, shell be much more forgiving and technically you didn't lie to her, you just never brought it up