Should i show this guy i dont play games..or should i chill? Guy into my girl..

[shark]

My good friend who is a girl was talking to this senior (h.s.) and he mentioned my girlfriends name saying she was cute and he was interested in her. (btw im a junior and so is she). Anyway, my friend told him we were goin out and stuff and how he should back off and blah blah blah and he said somtin like he used to be an ahole to me. (never really spoke to him before). Anyway, i'm a betterlooking, cooler guy..only edge he got on me is he's a senior, maybe a DROP more of social value..and got a car.

Now, i'm not really that worried my girl would take him..but i jsut dont want to be disrespected like that by anyone. Would you say somethin to him if you were me..

part of me wants to go up to him and scare him a little (im bigger then him, but i got some friends whose friendly with him) and part of me is just LOL and sayin relax..no big deal take it as a compliment

what would you do?

 

[shark]

yeah, sorry fellas i tend to vent then realize my post was stupid and didn't need to post it.


ignore, thanks

 

[Black_Italian]

He didn't do anythign wrogn wait till he hits on her then you have a reason to be mad.

Ninja out

 

[Iamnotacrook]

If he says some **** like that again, it's clearly disrespectful, and I personally overreact to disrespect, I would tell him to shut the **** up or if it's the third time I will crack his skeleton in half with a flying projectile.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

I was going to tell you I hate guys like you, but then you mentioned that "part of you" wants to just relax. If every guy in the world got pis-sed off and tried to beat up everyone who liked his "cute" girlfriend, we might as well go back to the stone age, that is just bullshi-t behavior. Think about your attitude man. What if YOU liked some girl that was already taken? Did you ever think that maybe this guy didn't know she had a bf?? Even if he did, what is wrong with him saying something nice about her? Dam-n man, relax. Just because she is your girlfriend doesn't mean you should get pis-sed because he says she is "cute", who cares? Haha, DISRESPECT? Chill, before you lose this girl for acting like such a pus-sy. It is unattractive to be so territorial, and if that girl senses you get jealous when other guys hit on her or get scared that other guys are gonna take her, it won't be a good thing. You know what? "Don Juans" are known to ENCOURAGE the girl to see other people and do things with them, and guess what, this makes them that much more attractive. Sorry I have been rather harsh, but you needed to be bit-ch slapped before you fuc-k everything up.

*edit* oh I see, a "vent", I still hope you read the above.
Oh yeah, for those of you saying it is disrespectful, it is only disrespectful if the guy has knowledge of her having a bf.... otherwise, anyone could do that. And as long as he didn't know, beating people up because you're insecure about your relationship is the stupidest thing you could ever do. If you go that route, I hope you get your ass kicked hard..... you fuc-king over-the-top "alpha male" bast-ards, you don't own the girls just because they let you hang out with them (speaking to anyone in general who has this mentality). You ever go up to one of those groups of hot girls that has some dumbass loser guys standing by them? I love it, because when I go talk to all "their" girls and get their attention, I can tell those guys absolutely DESPISE me. Dumb bast-ards, let them stand there hating all they want, with their dic-ks in their hands. OK, I'm done.

 

[Valdez]

I'm a pro at this. I've been with many girls who are hit on alot and with my current girlfriend this is how i do it.

I basically constantly plant the seed in her head that guys she meets are just after one thing and are up to no good.

I usually joke around with something like "So how many guys hit on you today?" She would respond with "Nobody hit on me today" at which point i'd be like "haha, oh I'm sorry, how many guys showed interest in becoming your friend today?"

Keep in mind this is all to be spoken about in a light hearted humorous way.

At this point, if done correctly she will bring up a guy approaching her or something...laugh with her and ask what did he do. After she tells you, laugh about it and something like.."that guys my hero, I remember I used to be kinda like that when I was younger, I don't blame him, but guys these days are so predictable!"

a statement like that with your attitude SAYS alot about you...ALOT of good things. Basically, just condition her to have her guard way up high when she is introduced to a guy, whatever the situation may be.

Also, by showing her you trust her, and that your trust in her is everything early in the relationship, she will value how you are sure about things when it comes to you and her and she will not want to ruin that. She will start feeling good about being able to reject guys who would otherwise have a good shot at her. Sure there's alot more to it, i can actually write a book about this stuff, but thats a good place to start.

 

[Jedo1]

You guys all wrong.

Valdez, what you suggest is still the act of an insecure man.

The only way to handle this is not care. Truly not care.

We must realize that as humans, someone better may come along for eithr us or our girlfriends. As someone else said, we don't own that other person.

Let her know that she has options, but more importantly let her know you have options too.

If she wants to stay around, she will, just as you will if you want to.

The goal is to be a DJ not to be manipulative. There is a huge differance.

What most of you do is a false con, you put on a front. You are like Lamborghini kit cars.

Underneath all the flash and paint you are really just a volvo, and the girls are going to realize this once they take a look under the hood and see what is inside, or take you for a test drive.

 

[flexion_]

There really wasn't any disrespect here so not sure what the problem is...?

Someone told your friend that he liked your GF? Who cares? Thats really a compliment to you - means your GF is a hottie.

 

[Valdez]

Jedo1, I agree the best course of action is to not truly care, but its always good to condition the girl so you will have a basis in your confidence rather than a basis in your ego of "she won't cheat on me, leave me" etc.

The technique is actually something I put together from when I would have girlfriends I really didn't have any feelings for. Basically I'm repeating some conversations used with girls I could care less about to a girl I actually care about now based on underlying meanings and power words.

Also, beginning DJ's are in fact using alot of "false cons", but through repitition it grows on them and becomes apart of who they are. So over time, it is no longer a false con.

An example would be a wannabe DJ "acting" confident around a girl he goes up to at first (even though on the inside he is scared sh*tless). As time passes he will actually BE confident in this same situation.

 

[FishInaJar]

Sharkz, you're so insecure! You will probably ruin yourz relationship if you keep it up. You can't do anything if she cheatz on youz.

 

[shark]

Originally posted by FishInaJar
Sharkz, you're so insecure! You will probably ruin yourz relationship if you keep it up. You can't do anything if she cheatz on youz.

lmao, thankz buddy

 

[Iamnotacrook]

Haha, DISRESPECT? Chill, before you lose this girl for acting like such a pus-sy.

Was this directed at me? Shark and I, we are not one in the same.

Anyway, I'm not territorial to attract ladies, I'm territorial to rule the kingdom, both kingdoms...

It's already apparent that this guy's disrespected him in the past.

like I said...

if he does it again(intentional disrespect)... "Shut the **** up."

Priceless. unless you fear confrontation.

Happens again after that? You decide.

Seriously, how long do you let a guy fiend over your girl?

Now, as for the first time, a head shake will do.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

No, it wasn't directed at you, but now it is....Man, go back and read jedo's post. How many guys do you see acting like you are describing we should act? I don't know any who are successful with women who act like that. Even in hollywood, the badass guy doesn't beat the hel-l out of men unless they are doing it intentionally to make him angry (which most of the time they aren't) or they are somehow annoying the girl. Those are the only two reasons I can see to make even an admonishment necessary. Otherwise, let her do what she wants. If you truly didn't care and were completely secure, you wouldn't act like that, and you wouldn't be territorial. Think about it. Even if he IS intentionally disrespecting you, you should still remain indifferent for the most part. The key is to let the girl know (by your actions) that you are completely unaffected by her actions, including when she flirts with other guys. Do you think this would make her think you are less of a man and don't have any balls? No, if anything, you look like more of a man. I have said enough.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by shark
..was talking to this senior (h.s.) ... (btw im a junior and so is she).

Moved to HS...

 

[frisco]

just make sure when ur infront of him ur like huggin her and kiss her if u can show him that u got the girl and he aint got **** that would get to him more than kicking his ass