"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I see a doctor?

Love_Games?!?

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I posted about this issue asking if I should be worried, and I can't help but worry now!

To sum things up in point form haha:

- I'm 19 and a virgin.
- Can barely get a hard on with this girl.
- If by chance I do its not a 100% good one as usual.

It seems as though when my clothes are on I'm ready to go, but once the time comes to actually have sex... it's gone. I watched some porn and everything seems to be fine. Should I stop masturbating/watching porn? I thought it's possible that because of the things you can watch with online porn maybe my sex drive is ****ed up. Should I see a doctor about this?!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Its probably just performance anxiety.

If you are able to get it up and rub one out while you are alone then obviously nothing is wrong with you physically.

Its mentally thats the problem.

So if any doc you need to see it'd be a psych doc but before that you could simply try to be relaxed with a girl and play around together while you are both naked getting used to eachother rather than just trying to immediately get down with it.

Before you know it nature will take its course and you'll be ready to pound her into the matress.

Good luck! :up:
 

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Sounds like performance anxiety. At the most a doctor will give you a prescription for Viagra if you can't get it up. If you wanna go this route there are some websites that give out free samples of Viagra.
 
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Love_Games?!? said:
I posted about this issue asking if I should be worried, and I can't help but worry now!

To sum things up in point form haha:

- I'm 19 and a virgin.
- Can barely get a hard on with this girl.
- If by chance I do its not a 100% good one as usual.

It seems as though when my clothes are on I'm ready to go, but once the time comes to actually have sex... it's gone. I watched some porn and everything seems to be fine. Should I stop masturbating/watching porn? I thought it's possible that because of the things you can watch with online porn maybe my sex drive is ****ed up. Should I see a doctor about this?!
It's not necessary to see the ole doc. You should probably most likely let aforementioned girl know you're a virgin before the sex. You just need to calm down and focus, give it stimulation and maybe have her slide it on your d!ck instead of you getting on top of her, as you're losing erection just give yourself stimulation. Trust me it will work. I remember being wasted and having a b!tch do that for me you know, just a fine ass 34 yr old married b!tch.. haha the experience the b!tch has definitely helped.. another the girl just sucked my d!ck for 15 minutes.. sh!t you know, just tell the b!tch the truth she wants your d!ck in her b!tches gotta eat cake sometime too you know :up:
 

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What the others said: You're suffering from performance issues here. What you are experiencing is quite normal when you're completely new to the whole sex thing(or even when you're with a new girl and had sex before).

The biggest cause of this is that you feel the need of having to performance with this girl because you don't want to disappoint here. So the first time you attempt to have sex with her(and she's not a virgin and thus you feel intimidated), you go limp. The second attempt you'll have this in the back of your mind, the pressure on you is even bigger, and the end result is the same: You get soft as a baby's ass.

It's normal. First thing to do about this is simple: Tell the girl you're a virgin and that you feel pressured because it's all new to you. This will tell her you have the balls to admit you're a virgin and will loosen her up a bit. Get used to being nekkid with her, get used to playing with her and her with you. Don't go all the way at first, but just discover the joys of hand play.

Also, have you ever asked yourself the question if you're attracted to her? I tried having sex with a chick that I didn't really feel attracted to physically. I can tell you, that didn't work out, and while she was blowing me, I had to think really hard about some other chick blowing me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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