"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I Pursue

LegendBoy

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Okay the happenings

I ask her out she says she can't because she is busy and kind of like another guy. I say okay and hang up and she msgs me later that night and ask me out for cofeee. I reject her.

Come this Wednesday I ask her out to the movies for Saturday she says yes. Then cancels on Friday because she said she was going shopping with her mum. Fair enough?

So tonight I call up and offer to go movies she says she would rather do something else. I say okay we're meeting up at the mall tomorow at 1pm and she says okay.

Now a few questions

Is the interest too low?

She said things such as movies are all about pashing, does that mean she ain't interested? On the flipside she said she doesn't want to movies for a first date.. I never mentioned date to her.. With her mentioning date is that significant?

Another thing is it wrong for me to expect too hook up first date? Is no hook up on a first date mean low interest?

Anyway I would really like some good responses thanks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Does sound like the interest level with her is low.

What kind have rapport have you built with her?

I'd give it a go at least, one last dig. Do a kamikaze, just throw everything into it, and if it does not work that time and that time only, no need to continue.

Better hope you haven't been thrown into the friend-zone already.
 

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I am no where near the friend zone. Because we don't talk much. Though she knows I am interested, though I have never mentioned it. Her throwing the word around date I reckon indicates that.

What should I do tomorow, I would rather go movies as it means easier hook up.
 

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That's good.

And good move on not telling her that you're interested. Actions are always better than words.

If you just wanna get some booty, take her to the movies. Whether she likes it or not, if it means action (And assuming that's all your in it for) then go for it.

It all depends what you want from her. If it's just purely physical, then throwing it all on the table is not a bad idea, not much use hanging around for something that may never come to fruition.

Movies, score, then assess.
 

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I am still planning on going movies, though what happens if I say okay we're going movies and she says no there and then. What could I respond with?

Not hooking up first date does that mean low interest????
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LegendBoy

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FucckK me can someone answer my previous question. This is my first actual date as usually in high school **** happens in school. Im going in an hour as well.
 

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Yo... first of all... breathe! lol
Alls chillin.

Personally, I wouldn't go to the movies first time w. a chick.
If you don't have that sh!t on lock yet... (and it doesn't really seem like you do) trying to just make your move on her in the theatre might be suicidal. You should establish more attraction... demonstrate value, and the fact that SHE doesn't have you just yet... be a challenge.

All textbook sh!t... but in your case, it seems like she's already assuming too much of your interest. Play this b!tch a lil more. Thus... my reason you shouldn't hit the movie, for the first outing. Kick it w. her... and her alone. Break away from your friends, if you were meeting up in a group. And try to connect something fuzzy w. her, lol. Get this lil kitty-cat purring for the d!ck, that she's not quite sure she has (like she originally thought).

Be suave, be pimp... but do NOT try to be. Bottom line... just don't care.
Play w. her, have fun... let it be cool, on your terms.

Oh, and for your ? .............. fvck interest level.
Your the one w. the hand on the level of that control switch anyways! Remember that!
 

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One more thing... if your bound to your group. Make it like a you and her special thing within the group. If you do this right... the entire groups energy/attention will only go into amplifying that feeling/reality.

Then you can pull that same specialness away from her, have a laugh w. your friends and make her thirst for the limelight again.

If you bug out and start goin all AFC... just take a deep breath all the way into the bottom of your nuts, and remember your the MAN here! Your directing the movie. The real you is a fvckin king... anything else is socities b!tch conditioning! Now go get your OSCAR Spielberg.


P.S. DonJuan it with ease. ;)
... and def. pursue when you've created the right moment! (AKA: Just TAKE her!)
 

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Thanks for the reply im meeting up 10. Its just me and her at the mall. I laugh if I get stood up. ROLF.

Probably not but I want to initiate something so i dont get into friendzone.
 

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So this the anwer to pursuing or not i also made a topic but this is relevant so read ..

went out today at 1pm and at first things seemed cold we didn't eat or drink we just walked around the mall then I went down to the park. Then I was making reference to her liking me she seemed insecure about it. By responding negatively, so I thought maybe today should be about "getting to know each other". Next thing we walk down to the beach at around 2.30pm

There she gets a drink (coke lol) and then we sit and chit chat about nothing for like half an hour. She then makes reference to one of her friends from another country seeing my picture and thinking I am hot. I say that is a green flag. So I initiate a massage on her and then she massages me I am thinking this is wrapped up. She then lays back on me and then I start kissing her on the head and I go "want me to kiss you on the lips" and she says no, I just go ahead and she kisses me. Then start feeling her tits from outside and thats as far as it got. I got into some gay talk about changing one body part and I said my eyes and shes like, I really like them.

Anyway i kissed more before we departed. Honestly I wouldn't of appraoched at school if it wasn't for sosuave so ****n lucky I found this place. I mean i never was a nice guy. Just shyish not very but enough to for no sucess.

I am out of a dry pathc of about 10months lmfao. Probably because I don't go clubs, pubs or parties. So ye

This aint a brag because this is nothing I just wanted to relate to the topics I have been posting lately. Thanks to the guys that responeded to my topics.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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heheee... Good to hear!
I'm proud of you Chap! lol...
Sounds like you guys had a good time.

Keep the suave command lovely and flowin.
 

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Cheers thanks for the tips. I just had "Breath deep until you breath deep to your balls all date" lol. It was like my mindset. LOL
 

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LegendBoy said:
I got into some gay talk about changing one body part and I said my eyes and shes like, I really like them.
:crackup:

WHY??? are you cross eyed?

Never ever go down that route again. Don't point out things you dont like about your self or things you would like to change. It is a big sign of insecurity.

Good job though. I love the way she said "no" and you kissed her anyways. It really does make me laugh how chicks ALWAYS come out with that crap where they want to more than we do!
 

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lol... ya the ball breathing is a good mindset.

Keeps the strength of one's masculinity a breath away. ;)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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