Should I pay in this situation?

[ThatGuyOverThere]

Tomorrow I'm taking my ex-girlfriend to lunch. We haven't really talked in years, and we're using this get-together to "catch up". I'm not really sure whether to pay for her or not. I mean sure, we went out, but that was more than six years ago when we were both in 6th grade - we now have just graduated high school. You can imagine what a relationship between two eleven-year-olds is like, even though we did go on several "dates". What do you guys think?

 

[wjh]

First of all, that doesn't count as an ex. Pre-puberty relationships are NOT real relationships.

What sort of date are you going on? If the pretense is "friendly" I would not pay for her meal. It's lunch, so I doubt you're expecting anything.

For better advice you need to provide better context. Is this a girl you're TRYING to have sex with? Would you LIKE to pursue something with her? Are you interested? Is she attractive to you? Have you been speaking to her for months now? Did you go to the same HS? Is she back from out of town? Did she send you a MySpace message? I mean, the list of questions can go on forever.

You should highlight any other important variables that might be relevant, such as whether or not she's someone you WANT something with. Because if you don't make up your mind and figure out what you want with women... You're setting yourself to being open to manipulation or put in situations you don't want to be in.

 

[yama600rr]

just pay for the damn thing you cheap ass! i mean damn, you gonna make a thread asking if you should pay? common dude, how cheap are you? you're taking a girl out to lunch, what's the big deal about paying for it? youre so cheap

 

[n00bPimp]

If she offers to pay then let her pay her half.