"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I ignore her? Or pick up where we left off?

rkc09

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Guys listen up. This is embrashing sitution but this girl has me confused. Okay so me and this girl hit it off well. We kino and kissed each other and the next day I asked her out she told me that we should just be friends for now, blah blah alot of you already know the story.

That was 2 months ago. I forgot all about her and moved on. I talked to alot of other girls but none of them are all that exciting. Some of them want to date me but I really don't want to date any of them to be honest. Recently that same girl has started flirting with me again. Even one night after church she walked up to me grab my arm and asked "why don't you ever call me anymore?" And then EVERY Sunday during service she keeps looking in my direction. When I look at her she holds eye contact for about 3 seconds and then smiles at me. I smile back but I usually don't pay no attention to the flirting but Idk, whats going on. I thought she moved on but it seems like she wants to pick up where we left off. Should I give this girl another chance or should I just keeping doing what I'm doing and ignore her? Am not gonna lie, I still kinda of like her.....
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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faiNt`

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If she's still giving you signals, pick up where you left off. At this age it's perfectly fine to just "hang out" at one of your houses: either hers or yours. If I was you I would say "we're hanging out at your house on X and I'm coming over at Y." If she is busy or doesn't want to, she will make sure you know.
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
I say, give it another shot. But only if you want to, and she's hot enough. Try not to make exceptions for women who "disrespect" you, but I say give it a try. If she pulls the same S**t, dump her ass.
 

john paul

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Give her another chance but do it differently this time or its going to end the same.

You guys kiss one night and then you ask her out the next. You know thats afc now and wont make the same mistake of showing too much interest and acting too needy.

I personally think that asking a girl to be your girlfriend is a big no no. It should just get to a point where you and her know your together or she asks you. Asking a girl to become your girlfriend and exclusive just comes off as desporate because you dont have any other opitions and needy becuase you want to almost trap her in a relationship with you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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schttrj

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why do i smell that if we say yes you would rather jump in and give ur whole heart to that lady? man, you are not in a relationship with her at the moment, u r just screening her. she is good but LTRs are different games altogether and petty c/f and fun is not gonna cut it off. keep it cool and ur aim is to make out with her at least a couple of times before you emotionally invest into her. u get me? till then, just go on playin a strong game, bud! and do remember i have been dumped and played by some girls very badly, so i know what happens when u feel u r in love, there is no DJ thing at work then but who keeps the DJ thing in place wins her over. one rule fo the thumb: just be happy and enjoy what ur doing. if it s a heck to u, **** it off.
 

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Okay trust me man, I'm not that desperate my friend. I actually learn from my mistakes. Don't worry, I know what I'm doing.
 
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